Are you ready for that train?

Good afternoon,
 
You are not what you feel.... don't let your lying eyes tell you that you've been defeated because times have gotten rough.  GOD is always on the job. Even when your faith is shaky GOD's still in charge. Keep preparing for better even through your tears. This is not the time to give up. Crying is just weakness leaving the body. You are so much strong than you even realize. There is nowhere in the Bible that it says that life would be is easy and you would always be happy but you have been built to endure all of your life storms. You are just in the hole. (Refer to “What you know about Joe”) I promise it won’t always be this way. In one of my favorite movies the lead actress says, “They say they built the train tracks over the alps between Vienna and Venice before there was a train that could make the trip... they built it anyway. They know one day the train would come.” A better time will come….Just keep building. GOD works in HIS time and HIS time is always perfect. HE came in human flesh too see the trials and tribulations that we would have to endure. Soooooo, HE knows that times will be rough.....but HE gave you the gift of choice to come to him. Think about it this way....if your sister, brother, child, cousin, older parent or friend has a problem you would want them to come to you for help and support right? Well that's what GOD wants. Come to HIM and find rest. Meditate and get closer to HIM. Let your mind be cleared so you will be able to see the solution to your problem. The answer most times is already there but you are not able to see it because you are too wrapped up in your negative feelings.  Work on positive thinking and forward movement. KEEP BUILDING AND TRUST GOD!
 
AND remember Trust in the Lord with all of your heart, and do not lean to your own understanding. In all of your ways acknowledge HIM, and he will make straight your paths. – Proverbs 3:5-6
 
MAKE IT GREAT!

E

God are you there?

Good Afternoon,

Boy I tell ya.....from the people that I spoken to lately HE is not there. At least that's how they feel. Their pain is so severe that that can't see past their noses. I know their pain will not always be this extreme but right now, they may as well be blind. This is the time that your support system (or as Katt Williams would say..."Your Team") should step in.... They need to stay prayed up for you when you can't. They stick with you and are always there....hanging in the background like groupies or awesome backup singers. GOD knows us....he knows everything. We don't have a clue and that's why most times we run around like chickens with our heads cut off in pain. There is a lack of trust and when that happens you have to get that focus back. When you are in so much pain that you don't know what to pray for or are questioning GOD's presence in your life is when you get real simple. Just ask (or beg) for GOD to hold your elbow. Help you to get through the situation. You have been given the gift of choice because HE always wants you to choose HIM. So, HE is waiting on you. Ask him to heal your heart. Beg for strength to get through it. Meditate on HIS love for you. HE knows we are human and there will be times of weakness. Times of pain. Times of depression......BUT since we are created in HIS image we are sooooo much stronger than we think. FIGHT! Have your team stay prayed up! Choose HIM and HE will guide you through this storm. I'm not saying this because it's in the bible, in a song, or some urban legend. I can tell you this because HE is constantly guiding me through every storm. Just when I think I can't take anymore GOD steps in..... AND I KNOW if HE takes the time out to do it for me HE will do it for you. You just have to keep believing and keep fighting. Life will not always be easy but it's always worth living.

AND remember......disappointments happen, unexpected things occur but GOD is never caught off guard. If you’re his child, then relax, HE’s got you.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Looking for happy?...................

Good afternoon,

If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom. – Anthony de Mello – The way to Love

I mean really is there anything else to say? We don't enjoy just being alive, being happy just because nothing is happening, or appreciating the small everyday things. We want life to be a certain way and when it's not that all we are able to think about. Don't let things that don't matter ruin an otherwise great day. Every day is a gift and it's up to you how you will react to it. Think about it like this....If you worked really hard and saved all of your money to buy your loved one a gift. They took one look at it and said, "But this is not the color I wanted" wouldn't you be a little pissed? I mean it's the thought that counts right? Well GOD gives you a new chance at life everyday and we complain all day about how it's not how you want it to be. You ever think that GOD may be like, "Well I'm not giving them anything else until they appreciate what I have already given them". Just a little something to think about. I understand that there are some things in life that will make you unhappy. You just can't tattoo those things to your heart. How can HE bless your heart when you are stressing your heart? Be happy about all and nothing at the same time. Appreciate what you have and know when you extend your hands to GOD to give HIM praise they are closer for HIM to drop blessings into.

AND remember the happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Love don't make no sense....o​r does it?

Good afternoon,

Love is not a black and white thing. Everyone on this earth receives love in a different way. I have previously written about the 5 Love Languages. For those who may not be familiar with the book, the 5 love languages explains how there are five love languages and each of us has one that speaks directly to our hearts. If the primary language is not demonstrated then none of the others will be fulfilling. We have a tendency to speak our own love language towards the people in our life. That would be fine if everyone had the same primary love language. What we have to do is figure out how the other person receives love and attempt to do those things so that they feel loved and cared for.  That seems to be where people fall short. I have heard from many people telling me all of the things that have or had done to attempt to make their significant other happy. It wasn’t that it was bad….actually most of it was awesome but it couldn’t be recognized because the primary love language was not included. It’s like being in a dark room and all of these beautiful portraits are in there but no one can appreciate it because the missing element is the light. Speaking to someone’s love language is turning on that light. Then they will be able to see the other things that are going on around them.  Someone once told me that Love is a choice. I somewhat agree. I believe that you have feelings for someone and you choose to open yourself and allow those feelings to grow. Love is just that….Love. It’s all about how you choose to use it. There are slight differences in the way you love depending on the person but love is love. The point of love is each person making that other person feel loved. The problem comes when one or both people are only concerned about their own love. When it’s all about you how do you expect that other person to feel loved? That makes sense huh? You fell in love or chose love because what that other person brought to the table. Well somewhere along the way things changed. So what do you do? You sit and have a knee to knee. Be open and honest about your needs and wants. Then each person works on those things knowing that with some effort things will eventually get back on track. I have always been of the belief that if I work hard to please you and you do the same for me then we will be fine. People think there is a lot to love but it’s not really. Through communication and effort it can all be figured out…..you just need two willing people.  

I hope I made some sense out of this thing called love…….

AND remember love lasts because two people made a decision….. to keep it, fight for it, and work on it.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Performance review time 2..........

Good afternoon,

It’s that time again……

Confession time….. CLAWD……Ok here goes….I have been struggling with my feelings. There I said it! As for those of you that really know me I do not care for my “girl” feelings. I love to feel happy, loved, loving, silly, and things of that nature. When it comes to those feelings of uncertainty, lost, confused I just can’t deal. Lately it just seems like things have not been right. I attempted to just chill out and let things run its course but it only seemed to get worse. My sleep, dreams, and appetite were being attacked by these “feelings”. I know me very well so I had a come to Jesus with myself that everything needed to be addressed. I reviewed how it all happened and then with each item I thought it out and wrote down a plan of action. One thing no one (including myself) will do is keep my happy from me. I took the first step and through several forms of communication, I dealt with each situation. CAN I TELL YOU how free I feel right now…. I actually got some sleep last night. There are still some residual feelings left that need to be confronted but the whole point of this is being true to yourself. We are not perfect and will never be BUT we should always be honest with ourselves. It will save you days, months, and years of anguish. I believe the reason most people are not honest with themselves or with others is that they are afraid of being judged. The thing is that if you feel that someone will judge you for something you have done or who you are you actually judged you first. (I’ll wait while that sinks in *crosses arms*) That’s why you scramble to hide who you really are. You are embarrassed about you. O_O We all do it but I am here to tell you that when you admit who you really are it’s sooooo freeing. After I free myself from my own thoughts, I always give myself the side eye because I should have done it earlier.  Stand up and be honest. “Hello my name is E and I don’t like being vulnerable, I hate my “girl” feelings, and because I am not vulnerable I can come off as the Ice Queen* Now you know me….sorta…lol. I always wonder if people are aware of themselves but then I think if they were not aware then they wouldn’t have to hide who they are…..They are just not being honest. If you review your performance first and are happy with the way you are living your life then really, that’s all that matters. When you are uncomfortable with you so will everyone else. Free yourself!

And remember the strongest people are the ones that can admit their mistakes and take the steps to become better people.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Going through it.......

Good morning,

Right now it seems like everyone I know is going through it. I mean it’s to the point that I know my words are falling on deaf ears. Heck one person told me that they didn’t really want to hear any hang in there talk and I hadn’t even said anything. It hurt because I don’t like seeing people I care about feel that way but I totally understand. There will be times where “It will be ok” will make you want to snap on someone. You want a “fix” to the problem and nothing else will do. Well I am here to tell you that a fix will come. I don’t know what it will be, when it will come, or how it will be delivered. What I do know is that everything has a fix. Everything will change. That’s life. What you are feeling right now is a valid feeling but you will not always feel this way. During this waiting period prepare your mind for change. Really dig your heels into the ground and work on it. Do not leave yourself in a dysfunctional state of mind because GOD will not repeatedly sow into dysfunction because you will be blocked to his answer a.k.a “The Fix”. This message may not be well received at this moment but I will continue to plant this in our heads because if we want better we have to get ourselves ready to receive better.  All I ask is that you don’t give up…..Life will never be easy but it’s worth the work, struggle, and tears.

And remember sadness, hurt, and pain are like a head cold…..with patience it too shall pass.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Happiness is in the eye of the beholder

Good afternoon,

I know that the title of this post is not how the saying really goes but it still has some truth to it. Happiness is in the eye of the beholder simply means what makes you happy may not necessarily make someone else happy. That's why trying to fit into what society, your friends, and your family thinks should make you happy may not always be correct. It's like saying if 12 people like pig feet then you should as well. Well I don't like pig feet and I don't care how much you try to jazz up the description.... I'll pass thanks. I know who I am, what I like, and what I want. Now there have been times that I have gotten off track but the good thing is that the track is always there for me to get back on. I have to make up my mind to change and BAM there is that track….lol. Discover what makes you smile and feel all warm inside and nurture it. If it no longer makes you happy then DECIDE to do something different. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to abandon the whole thing it may just mean you need to adjust some things. The point is that a decision has to be made to see a change. Don’t be afraid of change. Life is constantly changing so why not seek out things that make you happy?  It's your life and you have to be the main person filling it up with happiness. Sooooooo like I said, "Happiness is in the eye of the beholder".....what makes you happy?

AND remember happiness is the person who knows what to remember of the past, what to enjoy in the present, and what to plan for in the future.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Submerge..........

Good afternoon,

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

This is so true about Love.  It’s past experiences that influence people to build walls to protect their hearts from pain and in the process, it also shields the heart from feeling the happiness of love. Love is like a tool. Sitting on a shelf it looks great. All definitions, commercials, songs, and other expressions of love give the appearance of pure JOY. What needs to be realized is that once you have it, it's how you use it that determines if it will be great or not. Do you know why children are so happy? They allow love to happen to them. They don't run from it, plot on it, question it, or reject it. It's all because they don't have any experience with it. When you reject love, you're basically saying that you don't trust that you learned and are better from the last time. You also stating that you don't trust that the new person is any better than the last person that hurt you. Wow.... Not everyone knows how to love, how to show love in a way that the other person can receive it, or how not be scared of love. This is where communication becomes important. Listen to what they other person is saying. Ask questions. Be open and honest. Like I said earlier….love is s tool. It’s up to you and your partner on how love will look in your life. Give love a try. Now I'm not saying to go and jump off every cliff hoping that love will be there to save you. What I am saying is be open to the possibility of love and the happiness it can bring. If you are so lucky to come across someone that is open to love and willing to communicate about it then by all means don't deprive yourself from experiencing something great. Love, like anything else, is something that will need to be worked on....so don't trick yourself into thinking that it's supposed to be easy. Nothing in life is easy other than waking up and at times even that's a little rough as well. Oh and another thing....Love is not like a firecracker. You don't light it and POP! Love is more like your electricity. If you keep working and paying the bill then lights will always be on. If you have ever loved or been loved you know that it’s worth the work. Love….little word….powerful feeling.

AND remember a person is already halfway in love with any person who listens to them……

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Bucklin'..​....

Good morning,

Every now and then, you will fall out of line with your relationship with GOD, your happiness, and your peace of mind. That doesn't mean that your life is falling apart or that you're being punished. You've just stumbled a bit. The other day I was walking into a building downtown to meet a friend for lunch. As I was walking in, I was attempting to hold the door for the person behind me. Well as I stepped through the door my high heel slipped on the metal strip and "Down goes Frazier".... I fell. I let go of everything and my belongings were scattered everywhere. Oh, did I mention this happened during prime lunchtime? Thank goodness I don't embarrass easily so I got up (with some help) gathered my things (with some more help) and continued on my path to get some lunch. What I didn't do is not get up. I fell. I'm not perfect. I'm not always going to do the right thing. What I always want to do is acknowledge the mistake, figure out what I did wrong, get up, get moving, and try not to do it again. Never give up trying to be great! Like when GOD came into the garden looking for Adam and Eve. GOD already knew they ate the fruit from the tree but he came seeking them anyway. They knew they had made a mistake and instead of saying, “Hey GOD…I know you said don’t eat the fruit from that tree but we did and we are sorry” they hid. What were they hoping? That GOD wouldn’t see them? Maybe they could live in that tree forever? Acknowledge your mistakes and work on fixing them. No is perfect but your life can be sooooo much better if you just put in the work. Life is the gift….How awesome it will be will be determined by amount of work you do. Don’t let the storms overshadow the gift of life. Every day that you wake up is another opportunity to be better than you were yesterday. Take advantage of it! If you don’t know what to do then ask someone. Allow people to help you. Don’t be embarrassed. Everyone will need help at one point or another in his or her lives. TEAM WORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK. Focus on happy thoughts.  Give your goals the attention they deserve. Once you do that you will begin to see the pieces fall into place. Just keep working on it.

AND remember don’t be upset by the results you didn’t get from the work you didn’t do…….

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Can you feel it?

Good afternoon,

Do you know what happiness is? I believe it’s a warm feeling that starts in your chest and moves to your face. It curves the ends of your mouth in an upward motion. Your cheeks plump up and there is a twinkle in your eye. Now this can come from a memory, a person, place, or thing. The point is I don’t think we appreciate these moments. We give too much attention to negativity, doubt, and fear so we do not fully submerge ourselves in the happiness that we experience. The happy moments in life are there to help fill your happy tank. How can you ever say that you want happiness when you can’t recognize that you have it right now? Well it may be because you are not happy with yourself. When someone doesn’t like himself or herself, they are not able to see the blessings in their lives. They make decisions rooted in negativity and this manifests more situations that are negative. The change has to be made internally. We have to decide that we want to be happy. We are given the gift of choice so when you live in perpetual darkness most times it’s because you are not fighting to change anything. It’s like having a gas card with no car. Make the decision to get the car so that you can appreciate the gas card. You have been giving life…again this morning. *Happy* You are born again each day. *Happy* This is the basic happiness. I am not even talking about the small things that happen to you during the day. *Happy, Happy, Happy* Appreciate it all or as my aunt likes to say Count it all JOY! I know some people that experience great things and will acknowledge it but as soon as the positive statement is done, a negative one follows. LIVE IN THE MOMENT of that happiness. Feel good about it. Smile and feel grateful that the blessing has been poured on you. I take time out of everyday to think of all that has been given to me. I think about the things people do for me. I think about the things that I am able to do for others. I reminisce about the jokes and laughter that I share with others. I appreciate it all and I know that I am blessed because it doesn’t have to be as good as it is now. With that being said, as I sit here smiling, Thank you to all that have added JOY into my life. I am happy in the midst of any storm because even though it may look dark I know that it won’t always be that way. I also know that there is always light in every dark place I just have to look for it if I want it and the same goes for you. Make the decision to be happy and keep working towards it.

AND remember there is a rainbow in every storm….do you see it?

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Too hot to handle?

Good morning,

In a conversation the other day someone said, “Lord, why me?”

I was thinking and the truth is there will be times that you have to go through the fire to be a testimony for someone else. You are strong enough to handle it. It just may seem at the time that it's too hard and things look as if it could never change. Well I'm here to tell you that trouble doesn't last always....... If you don't believe me, take a moment to think about the last horrible moment in your life. You got through it and you will get through this as well. Just keep moving forward. Write out your feelings, anger, or frustrations. Get that off your chest and hang on because GOD will never give you more than you can handle. I can say this because he made me a BEAST. If I sit around think about all the things I don't have I could be depressed forever. I don't have a mother, I have a father that selectively speaks to me, an unsuccessful marriage, no kids, no siblings, and I then I have to sit around and watch people complain/enjoy their families. That sounds like it sucks right? Well there are moments were it gets to me. That is when I hunker down in prayer and meditation.  I am not able to snap my fingers and things change. Instead of thinking the negative, I work hard a refocusing to the things I do have. I had a wonderful mother that loved me unconditionally. I miss her all the time but when I think about her, it makes me smile because what we had still lives in me. When I care about people, I will always love hard and go that extra mile. The people in my life appreciate that about me and do the same for me in return. My father and I may not have the best relationship but we are open and when we do speak, we make the best of it. I can’t change the past but I can let go of it and work on today. I am divorced but the experience was not all bad. I married my friend and I loved him with all of my heart. How do you regret that? I learned about relationships and myself making me a better person from the experience. I have no kids but it's not over until GOD says it is so I still have time. I was not blessed with siblings but I have friends that I have built bonds with that come very close to that sibling love. As far as my circle complaining it won't always be roses and they need to vent. I understand this. I focus on their happiness and attempt to sympathize and encourage when they are unhappy. It’s a moment not their life. I know they appreciate what they have so it's all good. We must all work hard and look for that silver lining in order to keep moving forward. GOD knows our hearts and if we are patient HE will make sure that we have everything we need. I want to be here to encourage us all. It's my life's purpose. I do it even when I'm not 100% happy. Most of the time you don't even know it....lol. Apparently, I'm strong enough to do so I do it. When I’m feeling weak, I meditate and scoot even closer to GOD because I know that I’m human and can get off track. People always accuse me of not sharing but why complain when I know that it can change any minute? I just stay prayed up and if it gets too heavy I will even beg GOD to continue to make me strong so that I may get through this storm and back to my rainbow. Like I said GOD will never give you more than you can handle....negative or positive. We actually do not know how strong we are. We have to start preparing ourselves for better! It's like making lunch for work the next day. You know that you will at some point desire food so by preparing your lunch you are making sure that you will be happy and fed the next day. Do this for everything in your life. Get things in order. Get your mind right. Stop thinking negative and give room for the positive to happen. Keep pushing forward and celebrate the blessings we already have until your new blessings arrive.

AND remember don’t pass up the positive in life looking for the negative….

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

That ain't grass....that's dirt.

Good afternoon,

“The grass is always greener on the other side”……

I know that you have heard this one before. It’s the idea that someone is looking at someone else’s situation, seeing all of the positives, and magnifying all of the negatives in their own situation. What we have to become conscious of is that we don’t know what it’s taking to make that situation look that way. Are they working as team to make it look effortless? Are they fronting and putting on airs to make it appear as if everything is on the up and up? Could it be the same grass as yours but since it’s not yours, it looks better? There are times that we are soooo busy looking at other people’s grass that it to be so much greener than ours. The real deal is that the focus is on the wrong yard. When we pay attention to other people’s lives, we neglect our own….therefore giving the perception that the other persons’ life is so much nicer. Tend to your own grass. Do some research, ask some questions, and find a way to make your life better. Heck if you want you can always ask your neighbor for tips. The resources are out there to make your life the exact way you want it to look. You have to remember that not everyone’s life will look the same. That’s not how the world is designed. If everything were supposed to be the same then I wouldn’t even be writing this post because we would all be the same. There would be no need to vent, encourage, or remind because we would all be programmed the same. Since we are not, get to know your own situation. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Put in the work in your own yard and you may just find that you already have yard of the month!

AND remember we don’t see things as they are….we see them as we are.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Taking the chit with the sugar.....

Good afternoon,

“For better or for worse”…. Those are the realest words ever spoken but yet we tend to think “For better or better”. When the poo hits the fan, many people will abort the mission (or at least contemplate it). They are in the vows for a reason. You are making a promise that when life gets hard (because it will) you will be a ride or die partner. Marriage (and relationships period) is a commitment that each of you have decided to take that you will do what needs to be done to keep the ship running smoothly. Some people work really hard to get into a marriage/relationship and then sit down thinking the ship will sail itself. That’s not how it works. You have to constantly check on the ship, the weather, and the crew. When something goes wrong address it and see what needs to be done to get it on track again. You see…. I am amazed at how people will bust their hump at work under the worse conditions but they won’t do it for their significant other. There is something in the brain that says “YOU NEED THIS JOB” but not “YOU NEED YOUR PARTNER”. It’s crazy. I know people who have gone into a marriage and/or relationship with a “Fail plan” but they don’t do it for their jobs. *insert side eye* The plan should be that when “worse” comes you are prepared to put in the work. Oh and worse is exactly what it means….WORSE. It doesn’t mean not as good as good but still good…o_O. It could be a range from “That’s not good” to “Oh snap the ship is going down!!!!” but realize this is what you signed up for when you made that promise. You remember….the day you stood G’d up in front of a person of the cloth and all of your family stating to the world and GOD that this is your chosen person. Yeah…that day….It was a great day right? Well now that day is over you have to go work on maintaining that promise that you made to each other.  Marriages/relationships die because one (or both) person decides that they no longer want to work. It’s as simple as that. Now the ways they go about doing it are endless. The point is every day that you are in that marriage/relationship you have to decide that TODAY you are still going to be committed. Know that you are both going to *singing* make it last forever….. The truth is that we all have to be able to take the chit with the sugar. It doesn’t matter how times you change partners, there will always be a for better or for worse so don’t be scared to give love that old college try. You just have to do your part and commit to the one that will (and has) stand with you in the storms of life.

And remember a commitment requires two brave people who are ready to sacrifice anything for one another.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Crying over spilt milk.......

Good afternoon,

Have you ever heard of the saying, “It’s no use in crying over spilt milk”? It means that when we make a mistake there is no use crying or complaining about it. Clean it up and keep it moving. You can’t unspill it so you just have to be careful the next time. Now we are human so we will be hurt and may even need to vent about it and that’s perfectly ok. What we shouldn’t do is live in the mess. Clean yourself up. Figure what happened and make the necessary adjustments. There is more milk to have. What I don’t get is that when other people make mistakes we will encourage them but when we make a mistake we are soooo hard on ourselves to the point where we are like, “I’m never doing that again”. It’s crazy to me especially when you know you want it. It’s ok if it didn’t work out the first time. I mean really…. even GOD started over. There was so much wickedness in the world that he came up with a new plan and just Etcha Sketch’d us. HE never gives up on us and even though we are created in his image, we do not follow HIS example. If life has pee’d in your cheerios just get another bowl. Like GOD, when we try any situation you go in with the expectation to win. If you don’t then you try again but with a different plan. PLUS, if you stumble at least you have something to reference so that you don’t make the mistake again. You didn’t have that the first time. Don’t let your hurt block your path to happiness.

AND remember when disappointment or rejection knocks you down, get up and go again, because out of the greatest rejection comes the greatest direction.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

The game of love......

Good afternoon,

Some days I think the gerbil that keeps my mind running is going to Shawshank Redemption me……

Today I know I’ve had about a hundred thoughts on love alone. How do I love? Do I pay attention to how other people receive love? Do my friends and family feel love from me? Is there a difference between choosing to love and being in love? These are just a few of the questions that I have been pondering today. I personally feel that you can love someone and choose not to open yourself to a deeper love. Someone once told me that Love is a choice. I somewhat agree. I believe that you can have feelings for someone and you choose to open yourself and allow those feelings to grow. I feel that the problem with love is that most people do not take the time out to understand it. Love is like the NFL. The entire league is called “National Football League. Then it’s broken down into two conferences (NFC and AFC). Under those conferences are sixteen teams. These teams have their own names, colors and players. Love is the umbrella. I’ve read there are 4 types of love (Storge, Philia, Eros, and Agape). Then under each of those four types, each person will receive love a different way.  Love like football, is not for the faint of heart. The both require dedication, talent, and know how. Therefore, if you are not willing to put the time in and work on it you will lose every time.  Doing nothing or being scared has never has never won the Superbowl. Take a chance and do the proper research. If you don’t win the first time around there is always next season. I’ll never give up on love. I’m a winner!

AND remember winners find a way…..losers find an excuse.

MAKE IT GREAT!  

E

What you know about Joe?

Good morning,

Sooooooooo, I have been thinking about Joseph a lot lately.

You know Joseph right? The one where his brothers were hating, threw him in a hole, rescued him just to sell him into slavery, then was lied on by a women resulting in him being thrown into jail, and promised to be taken care of but almost forgotten. Do you know who I’m talking about now? What’s so crazy about it is that Joseph had a vision that he would be a very important person before all of this took place. It wasn’t as if he was in a bad place in life. Actually came from a hard working family. The reason I love this story so much is because, Joseph was made a promise but had to go through the fire before he could get to the greatness. I tell people all the time, “Sometimes you have to be put in the fire to burn off the old so you can live in the new”. Like Joseph, we know that we are destined for greatness but there are times where it feels like with every step forward you take five steps back. Joseph didn’t understand why all of these things were happening to him. He didn’t understand how he would be great from jail. Well I’m here to tell you that you have to keep moving forward. The promise is there you just have to hang in there to get it. Life doesn’t work on our time. Therefore, you can either wait patiently or keep forcing that square peg into that round hole. The choice is yours. We also have to dance during the storms of life. They are not there to keep you down. Life storms happen to give you the experience you need so that you may move on and serve your life’s purpose. Find the lesson in everything that happens to you. You may need to help someone later with the very experience you had. Now if you don’t get that lesson because you are in your feelings then GOD has no problem re-teaching you. (Let that sink in) I believe that we let the storms drench us and we live in the wetness….unhappy…..but every storm must come to an end and if we know this then we must hunker down and feel blessed that through it all we have been provided for. Get out of your own way and count the blessings that you have right now. We are built for greatness and we will have to endure some things to be prepared to handle that greatness. Pay attention really quick…. Joseph was sold into slavery and eventually became head of his boss’ household. Then he had the misfortune of being lied on and put in jail. In jail, he was placed in charge of the other inmates. While in charge, he was able to help interpret some dreams of an inmate. Due to that inmate, Joseph was summoned to interpret the dreams of the Pharaoh. He did and the Pharaoh appointed Joseph to Vizier. HE WAS IN CHARGE OF ALL OF EGYPT!!!!! If that’s not greatness, I don’t know what it is. Although his circumstances were not favorable, they were important to get to the necessary people that will lead him to the greatness that was promised in the first place.  Like Drake says, “Started from the bottom now we here”. In school, on the job, and in relationships you had to start somewhere to move to a higher position. Well there will be some bumps along the road. If you are in a funk now, you are crossing the bump. If you are in a good place in life then you are in-between bumps. Whatever storm you are in make the best of it. Shine even when it feels like you can’t go on. The only thing that can hold you back from greatness is you.  If you are reading this, you are still in the game so play as if you are going to win it all.

I hope that when you are feeling down and out you think about Joseph. He didn’t deserve the bad things that happened to him but it made him better in the end. Stay strong. Live, Love, and laugh!

AND remember don’t dwell in the misfortunes of yesterday. Be grateful for the power of today!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Poppin' that hotness......

Good afternoon,

The Gerbil in my head is running…….

You know how I am about hearing things in 3’s. This time the topic is communication.

There is a saying that goes, “Closed mouths don’t get fed”. I know I have stated this several times, because as you know I am super big on communication. I cannot give you what you want or stop doing what is annoying you if you don’t say anything. I understand that some people keep things to themselves because they are afraid of what the response might be. This is a sure fire way to keep yourself in a constant state of turmoil. BE HONEST. Be aware of who you are and what you want. Now the person you are speaking to may not always agree but they will always know where you stand. I believe that when you are honest with your communication, it builds a form of trust. You know that you will get the unfiltered version of someone’s thoughts. The problem is that with honesty you have to be able to take the chit with the sugar….. It’s not always going to go your way or sound the way that you would like it to BUT there is a chance that you will be able to come to some sort of compromise/understanding. I have recently had a long conversation about this. In my marriage, I feel that if he would have just told me what he wanted, I could have at least worked on it. Not to say that I would have been perfect at fixing the problem. The point is that I am given the opportunity to make corrections. Instead, we didn’t talk. I was always in my head attempting to figure out what to do. The gerbil running was so tired….. Now, if you can’t tell me what you want I will not waste much time attempting to figure out what's going on in your head. You can even tell me you are not sure what it is. I at least know that we can work on figuring out together so that we can correct it. I make it very clear that I may not always like what you say but we can break it down to get to the root of it. Now I know that tact is very important and I work hard on this because I can be blunt and I do not want anyone throwing up their defenses and we getting nowhere. The goal is to be happy. Sooooo with all of that being said unless you are one of Dionne Warwick’s psychic friends’ then you will need to bump your gums a little bit to inform the other person of what your needs are at the moment.

AND remember to tell people how you feel, because opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye but regrets can last a lifetime…..

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Relax.....it's just ladybugs......

Good afternoon,

One of my favorite movies is "Under the Tuscan Sun". In the movie Katherine says, "Listen, when I was a little girl I used to spend hours looking for ladybugs. Finally, I'd just give up and fall asleep in the grass. When I woke up, they were crawling all over me." I love this quote because it means we should just chill out and things will come to you when it's time. There is a plan for all of us and in order for it happen, when it's supposed to, we have to get out of the way. Patience is the key. It's also something that we do not practice enough. We tend to put all of these time constraints on ourselves and end up making poor decisions because we feel like we're running out of time. Enjoy your life, do your part, and don't worry about the rest. It's not like worrying ever made things move faster.....

And remember patience is the key to success, wisdom is knowing that success doesn’t happen overnight.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Chin Checkin'....

Good morning,

Some people are not able to appreciate what they have until they have lost it.

Do you ever feel like everyone has the very things that you want? Well, not everyone but many of the people that you see. I was talking about this topic with a friend. What’s so funny is that we both agreed that yes, they may have what we want but what did they have to go through to get it? What do they have to endure to keep it? When I see my friends with their families I can’t lie, I am envious. Jealous, no, because although I have a desire for a family of my own I realize that I have a great life. Yes, I’m single but that just means I come home to quiet. I can do all of the things that I love to do. I can come and leave as I please. I watch and listen to what I want. I can eat what I want. If I want to read books all day, I can without interruption. I am only accountable for me.  I never want to be in a position where my hopes and dreams override the blessings I have at this moment. The grass on my side is just as green as the other side. Perception is not always the reality. Every situation has its pros and cons. Learn to appreciate what you have. Life is always changing so it will not stay the same forever. Enjoy the moment before it’s gone.

AND remember be thankful what you have and you will end up having more…..concentrate on what you don’t have and you will never have enough.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!! 

E

You fell....not failed.....

Good afternoon,

Sometimes when you think you have failed at something you really are just being directed to go a different way. There was a lesson there to be learned. Take it and move on. Do not linger around beating yourself up about the situation. Keep moving forward. As you know, I believe everything happens for a reason. Find the silver lining in every situation and stick it in your mental file cabinet.  I like to think about the silver lining like the movie “Willie Wonka and the Chocolate factory”. Inside a few of the chocolate bars was a golden ticket. The chocolate may not have been good for you but the ticket will lead you to a better future.  Don’t focus on the chocolate …focus on the golden ticket. To fail at something does not make you a failure. A failure is someone that gives up. They no longer put forth effort. As long as you keep getting up and attempting to be better the next time then you are not a failure. I have found this to be especially true in relationships/marriages. If it all falls apart, some people feel that they are failures. If you worked for a major corporation and it went under do you go around blaming yourself for the demise of the company? Nope…. You pack up your belongings and start looking for a new gig. In a relationship/marriage, it takes TWO people to make it work. If you do not have the effort of that other person then there will be a breakdown. At that point, you can only work on being a better person for future relationships. Do not let society place labels on you. We have all failed but it has never stopped us from trying again. Be strong. Be grateful. Be happy.

We were created to be great!

AND remember never be afraid to fail….something good always comes out of it.

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Pleasantville.....

Good afternoon,

“Cause together ain’t promised forever…..let’s live in the moment” – Rihanna

In this moment, I am at peace. There is JOY in my heart and happy on my face. I understand that I will not have this life forever so I do not have time to think about the things that I believe I’m missing. I am good with what I have at this moment. Do I want more? Yes, I want more but how can I have more if I am not able to appreciate what I have at this moment. I will always strive for better but I do not want to ever forgetting how blessed I am at this very moment. I am so blessed that when I am not able to find my happy I have people in my corner that will help me get back to where I am supposed to be. There is no need for me to be sad. I let go of all of societal restrictions, people’s opinions, and past hurts. I am free to enjoy the gift of life that has been given to me. I know that because I am free I am able to serve you in your journey. I am able to encourage and cheer for you. Making your day better also helps make my day better. When you are encouraged then you will be able to encourage others. Before we know it, we have created a better place to live….and isn’t that what we all really want? The moment is now so live in it and enjoy the ride!

I hope today has been the kind of day that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside.

AND remember weeping may endure for the night but JOY will come in the morning.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!

E

Lose to win....

Awesome morning!!!!!

This morning I was listening to Fantasia’s new song “Lose to win”. I love this song….. “Sometimes you have to lose to win again” is so true. I know that the song is about a relationship but I believe this can be applies to all aspects of life. When a situation is just not good, you stay with the hopes that things will get better. Well if the other side is not taking the initiative to work with you to make things better then you have to let go. The situation can be a relationship, job, or friendship. Lose it so that you can achieve something better. Just because you let something go doesn’t mean that you are a failure. We have to change our perception of “Failing”. In order to be a failure you have to stop trying. Every time you stumble or fall and you get back up you are a success. In the end when you accomplish any goal you have a testimony of the work you put in to make it happen.

If you happen to be going through a storm or you feel like a failure, please realize that you are still standing. You are hurt but not ruined. Keep chipping away at the negativity and replacing it with the positive things in your life.

AND remember success is achieved by those that view failure as a hurdle and not a dead end.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

This is why you're single.....

Good morning,

I was speaking with someone last night about “communication”. They were saying that although communication is important not everyone can’t handle bring told things about themselves and that’s why people do not communicate. I asked, “If you feel that they will not be able to handle it then you just don’t say anything?” If I have done something that annoys or upsets you then how will I stop if you never say anything? So, you are just going to live in this unhappiness because you are afraid the other person will not be able to handle you telling them something they’ve done is bothering you? They said they probably would just not deal with that person anymore. O_O I replies, “So, that’s why you are single….” They didn’t care too much for that statement. I feel like if you do not attempt to communicate and rectify the situation then you will always end up in situation like this. Communication is so important. It’s how you begin to understand a person. Communication expresses love, wants, and needs. Even if you are not the most effective communicator, you should keep trying. Practice makes perfect…..or at least better. With communication, you have to be careful how you approach people with it. If you come at person with the wrong words or tone then it is possible that you will drive them away or at least activate their defenses. When you make mistakes like this then you should attempt to reach out to make them understand where you were coming from. You should always communicate with a solution orientated goal. When I was married we went to this couples retreat. We had activity called “Knee to Knee”. (I believe I talked about this in another post)  You sit face to face and take turns talking with the other person repeating what you said to make sure they heard and understood you. This way no one has to assume the meaning of anything. I LOVE IT! I’m not into to drama so I always want to talk it out and move on. I attempt to be an effective communicator. I’m not perfect so I do make mistakes. It doesn’t mean that I will stop trying. I detest having to assume. We never assume in the positive thus potentially making a mountain out of an anthill. Now with that being said…… you will cross paths with people that decide that they have no desire to communicate with you. It can be an unfavorable situation. You want to clear some things but it seems that they have no desire to hear it. You have put forth the effort and still nothing. Well what do you do? You stop. Attempting to communicate with someone that is not receptive is like walking over to a wall and trying to make it understand your point of view. That dog just won’t hunt. This doesn’t mean that all people are the same and you should just give up trying altogether. The truth is if there are people that do not communicate you don’t want to be with them anyway. If they don’t try now then they won’t try later. Communication works for those who work at it.

Attempt to resolve some issues today using positive communication.

AND remember assumptions are the termites of relationships. Don’t just say something……Say SOMETHING. (Thanks APG)

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

The little things....​........

Great morning!!!!

There is a song by Boyz II Men called “Little Things”. I love this song because I never want to take my life for granted. The little things can be overlooked because our want for the big things seem to be taking too long. I want to appreciate every little thing that is given to me. I found that when I count the little blessings I have so much to be grateful for and that makes me smile. Now do I have everything my heart desires? No. Is everything right in my life? No. That doesn’t mean that I cannot appreciate the things I do have. I’m sure those other things will come but in the meantime I want to be happy with what I have. We all strive for a better life but do not wait until it comes to be happy. If you can’t be happy now, then why would GOD bless you with more? Please know that all of your little blessings are like puzzle pieces….once they come together they create the big picture! Be happy and focus on the happy things that you have right now….it helps you be patient for future blessings.

I hope you have the kind of that makes you laugh so hard it creates a six-pack and smile so hard that your face hurts!

AND remember happy is what you make it so…….

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!!

E

Not Easily Broken........

Good afternoon,

Not too long ago I had a conversation with someone and they told me that they were "Broken". My first thought was, "Why would they say that?" The first thing out of my mouth was, “Never say that again because it's not true”. If you were broken you would not still be trying to achieve a wonderful life." Because I know some things about this person, I knew that they were still hurting from some experiences. So, you know the wheels in my mind started to turn. We all hurt from experiences but it's up to us to decide if we are going to let those things hold us back. I hurt for that person because I can see the pain they are going through and there is nothing I can do about it. They have to make their mind up to let go and then work on their goals. Let go of the past pain. Let go of the fear. Let go of the control. Every time we let go of something we free up space for something else awesome to enter our lives. We all have fears but we have to acknowledge them and move past them. Fear is just us trippin' on something that may or may not happen. There is no proof one way or another but because it's not happening in the time that we want we start geekin’. The older we get the more our fear grows. We feel we are running out of time and start make impulsive decisions. Then we start to become negative so just in case it doesn't happen we won't be hurt. Truth is we already setting ourselves up for failure when we do things like that. This is why I keep telling us that we have to focus on the blessings we already have. We have to speak positive things into existence. You never want to believe the negative because you put that negative vibe out in the universe and it manifests in your life. I hope that makes sense. Basically....what you put out you will receive….lol. We must believe that it will happen. I was listening to Bishop T.D. Jakes the other day and he said, "Believe ye received and ye shall have it". Meaning if you believe it in your spirit then you shall have it in the natural. It’s as if you know that you are going to get it. Heck, you can even know the confirmation number. You are just waiting for the delivery. We are human so there will be moments of doubt but you cannot live in that doubt. Have the moment and then move on...refocus and KNOW that it’s coming.

AND remember past hurts don’t mean that you are broken, it means that you were put to the test and didn’t fall apart.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Agape....

Good afternoon,

I was thinking this morning about love. I have no regrets sharing my love. We are created to love and it even states that we should love others as GOD loves us. I know some people think about being hurt but you can hurt by a paper cut. I don’t see anyone saying that they are not dealing with paper anymore. I get it when someone does not return your love your feelings can be hurt. There are a lot of “Why” questions. This is when you should, “Lean not to your own understanding”. Do know try to understand why someone didn’t return your love because it could be anything. Don’t go down that road of crazy. You are a wonderful person and if you invest your love in someone and they are not able to appreciate it then that’s their bad. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It doesn’t mean that you will run out of love for the next person.  It doesn’t mean that you wasted your time. It simply means that they were not the one and you must move on. You can’t make someone accept your love or love you back. They just may not know how to do that. Take the lessons from every situation and know that you are being prepared for something better. You have to think…. you always put your best foot forward in your job but if it doesn’t work out you don’t half step on the next opportunity. It’s the same thing with love. Spread love and know that you are appreciated.  Focus on those who appreciate everything about you. It will be easier for you to detect people that don’t when you have so many that do cherish you. Do not put conditions on your love because you will be hurting your own feelings in the end. I always think about love in the way that GOD loves us. We are always falling short of what HE wants for us but HE still loves us anyway. GOD loves us the same no matter what…..So, if I love someone and they do not love me back it may hurt but I do not let those people dictate how I love. They will just be the ones missing out on something great. I wish them the best of luck and move on to people that can value being loved unconditionally.  I want you to be able to do the same. Love, Live, and Laugh hard…it makes for a wonderful life.

AND remember a part of having a loving heart is loving people more than they sometimes deserve.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

What's your count?

Good morning,

My aunt always tells me to “Count it all JOY”. At times, this can be hard but then I just remind myself of all the blessings I have received. It helps me focus on the things that really matter in my life. Count your blessings and it will make what you are going through not seem as hard. It also helps you appreciate what you already have. Make your good outweigh your not so good. Adversity may be frustrating and scary but it’s also an opportunity to learn and grow. In anything you do there will be some obstacles but if you really want it then you will keep moving towards your goal. Now if you should fall short of this goal it’s ok. As long as GOD is waking you up to see another day then you can try again. We must stay focused on the good things that are happening in our lives so that we are better equipped to handle the not so great days. There is nothing wrong with having an emotional moment but it needs to be just that a “moment”. We are soldiers and we must continue the good fight. No one has ever said that life would be easy…..but it’s soooo worth it. So, today let’s count it all JOY. Be joyful that trouble does not last forever. Be joyful that you have people that care for you and have your back. Be joyful that with every negative situation you are still standing. Be joyful that you are still being blessed at this very moment. You were given this life to enjoy soooooo….ENJOY IT!

I hope that you are able to look straight into any storms and count it all joy because you know that you will be coming out on the other side much happier!

AND remember one joy shatters a thousand griefs….

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

If you ask me, I'm ready....

Good morning,

I was speaking with a co-worker this morning and we stumbled upon the topic of fear and love. She said someone told her, “You can meet what you feel is the perfect person and still end up getting hurt so don’t let fear stop you from love”. I totally agree with her. I have been in love and gotten hurt. Does that mean I won’t fall in love again? No. I was raised that love conquers all. I may not like some of your actions. I may get frustrated and upset at times but it’s love that keeps me there. It’s love that makes me want to work it out. I mean even with family and friends. I love them ….no I’m in love with them but it doesn’t mean that they haven’t hurt me before. We talk and work through it because we love each other…..AND that right there is what makes the difference. When you love, you will put in the work to make it better. We should never allow fear to keep us from loving someone. There is no need to wait for eventually…. LOVE right now. Waiting to show love or to love someone is only hurting you. You are missing out on something great!

I felt that I needed to talk about this because in one hour the topic of fear and love was presented to me three times. You know how I am about 3’s. The first was in my devotional. It talked about how GOD doesn’t want you to fear love because he has your back. The second time was my co-worker and not allowing fear to keep you from loving someone. The final time was Youtube suggesting that I listen to Alicia Keys “Un-thinkable” which is about not allowing fear dictate who you love. I needed to share…..

Love is a wonderful thing. It’s like eating your favorite food, buying your favorite watch or shoe, or listening to your favorite song. Now there will be times that your favorite food is not exactly same each time but that doesn’t stop you from ordering it. You favorite watch may not have the correct time or favorite shoe pinched your foot… you will adjust them and still wear them. Then your favorite song is playing but Pandora cuts it short…Do you even remember that the next time you hear it? NO, you enjoy all of these things because you love them and they make you happy. That is how love is…. It has its ups and downs but overall it feels great. We are supposed to love just as GOD loves us. That Agape Love..... Do not be afraid. You are built to handle love and all that comes with it. If you happen to find yourself in love, enjoy every moment.

I hope that you experience all the love your heart handle and more!

AND remember being in love can cost a lot but never allowing love in can cost more, those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life….

Open your heart.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Adore.....

Good morning

Do you know how GREAT you are? Yes, you!

A long, long, long time ago, I wrote a something titled, “If I were you I would leave you” and it was about how you treat yourself. I was going to use some quotes from it but I can’t find it…..smh. Anyway, I was reading this morning and the subject of failure was the topic. It made me think about how we treat ourselves when it comes to failure. There are many of us that feel that when we fail at something or some things we are failures and that’s just not true. We should always view ourselves as GREAT or even AWESOME! When you fall, just pick yourself back up. You were created in the image of greatness and if GOD doesn’t view you as a failure then you shouldn’t either. No matter what the circumstances have Faith and keep pushing. If you fail at something, then create a better plan and go at it again. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. You are wonderful and you should treat yourself as such. No one will ever be as good to you as you are.  When you treat yourself poorly then no matter what anyone else does for you….you will not be able to appreciate it. If you are not fulfilled from the inside then you become a black hole to everything else. You take and take but can’t find the JOY in it because you are not living a JOYFUL life. So, be good to you. Encourage yourself. Support yourself. Pat yourself on the back. Love yourself.

AND remember no matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!

E

You have just been *SPRINKLED*

Good afternoon,

Why do people question their happy? Asking if maybe there is something behind it or maybe they are missing something. The only thing you are missing is the joy that life is bringing you.  Happy is all around you but yet you keep looking for the negative. Really???? If you feel happy then enjoy it. If you feel like smiling, then smile. If you feel a boogie coming on then get to dancing! Stop looking for the bad. Not everyone or everything is out to get you. Do you not think that you deserve some joy? There are so many things to be negative about so when you receive some kindness then live in it. Make sure that you return the favor and then pass it on to the next. When happy comes my way and I am acting as if my life is ending…I check myself and get my mind right. I turn right to GOD and say THANK YOU! Then I thank the person that gifted me with some happy. Next, I pass that happy on to you. Why you ask?....lol…. Well because if I have it then I want you to have it. I am constantly saying thank you to random people throughout my day. I have been so blessed to have people be kind to me. I feel like I can’t say Thank you enough.  I put happy out there because I believe in sharing but sometimes when it comes back to me it’s hard to handle. I am grateful and I will make sure to live in every moment that I am given. I want you do the same. I want you good to outweigh your bad every day. We are created to be happy. GOD has given us the earth, each other, and most important freedom of choice. So, if you are not happy then choose to do something about it. Ask for help or just reach out to someone who is already happy. I’m sure they will share. If you don’t know anyone then go ahead and slap yourself because you have ME!!!!! I will share my happy free of charge. There is so much happiness on this earth that there is no excuse for you to live in the negative. So if you are not in a great place think about all the things you do have and be happy. Live in your “Ah Ha” moment.

AND remember happiness is a gift because it literally brings out the best in you!

I love you all!

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!

Untied.......

Good morning,

I was listening to T.D. Jakes and he said, “Once you have had so many bad experiences, anything that moves near you…..you are so apprehensive you already have a predisposed idea of what’s going to happen next. If you have been abused, and abused, and abused when I raise my hand you jerk and I could be trying to give you a piece of bread.”

I love this because it demonstrates how when holding on to the negative you subconsciously expect every person to come at you in a negative way. As I said yesterday, when you erect all of these walls you are preparing for failure and blocking your blessings. Once you begin to trust yourself, you will be able to see when someone’s juju is off. It will feel like tight underwear. There is no need to push someone away from the beginning. GOD always places people and situations in your life for you to learn a lesson. It is supposed to build a better you. Then when negativity does come your way, you are prepared. Trust HIM. One of my favorite scriptures is “Trust in the LORD with all of your heart and do not lean towards your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge HIM and HE will make straight your path”. The parts that I meditate on are “Trust” and “do not lean to my own understanding”. Trust….hmmmm…. it’s like when you allow someone to drive your car. You trust them enough to take care of it or you wouldn’t let them use it. I know that may seem simple but that’s how simple it is. You have to let go and know that you are covered. The other part about not leaning on my own understanding is harder. When something is wrong, we will think of all things we could have or should have done. Then we think of all the ways it can or should turn out. All the questions of “why” float around until you are dizzy. When those thoughts pop in your head, just keep telling yourself to not lean towards your own understanding. Repeat it until you can think of something else to think about. I mean because truth be told if you understood why you wouldn’t be driving yourself crazy in the first place. That rang so true to me this weekend. I was at the movies with friends and one of my friends kept asking “why”. Why did she do that? What does that mean? Where are they going? I don’t think they realized they were even asking the questions. I thought well if you wait a few minutes, it will tell you and that’s what we have to do in life. Stop with the questions and attempting to solve it ourselves and give it a little time. All will come into the light.

So today put your hands out palms up and let go of all worries. Whenever they pop in your head just put your palms up reminding yourself that you are letting go. Then trust….. Hand over the keys. GOD hasn’t failed you yet…whether you have a relationship with him or not. Finally do not dive yourself crazy trying to figure it out on your own. Give it a little time and the answers will appear and it will be easier to see them when your mind is clear.

I hope that you have a super awesome and encouraging day!

AND remember forget what use to hurt, appreciate what’s happening today, and make room in your heart for what’s coming next……

MAKE IT GREAT

E