Love don't make no sense....o​r does it?

Good afternoon,

Love is not a black and white thing. Everyone on this earth receives love in a different way. I have previously written about the 5 Love Languages. For those who may not be familiar with the book, the 5 love languages explains how there are five love languages and each of us has one that speaks directly to our hearts. If the primary language is not demonstrated then none of the others will be fulfilling. We have a tendency to speak our own love language towards the people in our life. That would be fine if everyone had the same primary love language. What we have to do is figure out how the other person receives love and attempt to do those things so that they feel loved and cared for.  That seems to be where people fall short. I have heard from many people telling me all of the things that have or had done to attempt to make their significant other happy. It wasn’t that it was bad….actually most of it was awesome but it couldn’t be recognized because the primary love language was not included. It’s like being in a dark room and all of these beautiful portraits are in there but no one can appreciate it because the missing element is the light. Speaking to someone’s love language is turning on that light. Then they will be able to see the other things that are going on around them.  Someone once told me that Love is a choice. I somewhat agree. I believe that you have feelings for someone and you choose to open yourself and allow those feelings to grow. Love is just that….Love. It’s all about how you choose to use it. There are slight differences in the way you love depending on the person but love is love. The point of love is each person making that other person feel loved. The problem comes when one or both people are only concerned about their own love. When it’s all about you how do you expect that other person to feel loved? That makes sense huh? You fell in love or chose love because what that other person brought to the table. Well somewhere along the way things changed. So what do you do? You sit and have a knee to knee. Be open and honest about your needs and wants. Then each person works on those things knowing that with some effort things will eventually get back on track. I have always been of the belief that if I work hard to please you and you do the same for me then we will be fine. People think there is a lot to love but it’s not really. Through communication and effort it can all be figured out…..you just need two willing people.  

I hope I made some sense out of this thing called love…….

AND remember love lasts because two people made a decision….. to keep it, fight for it, and work on it.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E