Taking the chit with the sugar.....

Good afternoon,

“For better or for worse”…. Those are the realest words ever spoken but yet we tend to think “For better or better”. When the poo hits the fan, many people will abort the mission (or at least contemplate it). They are in the vows for a reason. You are making a promise that when life gets hard (because it will) you will be a ride or die partner. Marriage (and relationships period) is a commitment that each of you have decided to take that you will do what needs to be done to keep the ship running smoothly. Some people work really hard to get into a marriage/relationship and then sit down thinking the ship will sail itself. That’s not how it works. You have to constantly check on the ship, the weather, and the crew. When something goes wrong address it and see what needs to be done to get it on track again. You see…. I am amazed at how people will bust their hump at work under the worse conditions but they won’t do it for their significant other. There is something in the brain that says “YOU NEED THIS JOB” but not “YOU NEED YOUR PARTNER”. It’s crazy. I know people who have gone into a marriage and/or relationship with a “Fail plan” but they don’t do it for their jobs. *insert side eye* The plan should be that when “worse” comes you are prepared to put in the work. Oh and worse is exactly what it means….WORSE. It doesn’t mean not as good as good but still good…o_O. It could be a range from “That’s not good” to “Oh snap the ship is going down!!!!” but realize this is what you signed up for when you made that promise. You remember….the day you stood G’d up in front of a person of the cloth and all of your family stating to the world and GOD that this is your chosen person. Yeah…that day….It was a great day right? Well now that day is over you have to go work on maintaining that promise that you made to each other.  Marriages/relationships die because one (or both) person decides that they no longer want to work. It’s as simple as that. Now the ways they go about doing it are endless. The point is every day that you are in that marriage/relationship you have to decide that TODAY you are still going to be committed. Know that you are both going to *singing* make it last forever….. The truth is that we all have to be able to take the chit with the sugar. It doesn’t matter how times you change partners, there will always be a for better or for worse so don’t be scared to give love that old college try. You just have to do your part and commit to the one that will (and has) stand with you in the storms of life.

And remember a commitment requires two brave people who are ready to sacrifice anything for one another.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E