tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79847536217427619792024-03-14T08:47:35.916-05:00Happy in the Midst of it All.....Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.comBlogger273125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-12813774374086204002017-12-05T14:10:00.002-06:002017-12-05T14:10:28.765-06:00Give us Free!!!!<div class="m_6392794478393131691gmail-MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;">
<span style="color: magenta;">Soooooooooooooooooooooo, I was scrolling through the Crackbook this morning while waiting on my vehicle to be serviced. A lady posted that she was so happy that it is scaring her. It made me think that we don’t submerge ourselves enough into the “Happy” of our lives. We are used to the struggle and hardships. We go through life not fully appreciating each and every day. It’s only when love, work, and family are on point that we are “Happy”. Then when your life is extremely good for an extended period of time you begin to feel a little paranoid. Like this is too good….. I’m too happy….. Things are too perfect. You end up lightweight ruining the happy because instead of drowning in it, you’re waiting on the other shoe drop. Maaaaannnnnnnn listen to me when I tell you feeling happy should be how you feel all the time! Being able to wake up, doing things for yourself, having a place to stay, work to go to, and people that love you should make you feel all warm and fuzzy. I am always saying that your life is a gift from GOD. Gifts are something that is supposed to make you happy. Free yourself from the chains of doubt, fear, and negativity. You deserve it! Hell your happy belongs to you! We can’t wait for something to happen in order for the happy to be activated when it’s with you all along. You have to be the person to recognize that your life is happiness! Happiness is the umbrella and all other emotions are things that fall and roll off of it. Again, I’m not saying that times won’t get rough. What I’m saying is that even at your lowest you have something to smile about. SMILE and enjoy the life you have been given. Keep moving forward and notice every “happy” along the way!</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-5106535722158908452017-11-27T15:17:00.002-06:002017-11-27T15:17:16.966-06:00No Regerts...............<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="color: magenta;">So there is this Milky Way commercial where a tattoo artist misspells the word “Regrets” on a man’s arm. I caught myself giggling a little bit </span><span style="color: magenta;">because we have all made decisions that that we later had regerts about. We all know that GOD has given us the gift of choice but not the gift of perfection</span>. <span style="color: magenta;">There is no way to guarantee that your choice will not end up hurting you…..BUT at the end of the day most mistakes you will </span><span style="color: magenta;">recover from. Soooooooo, some of you know that I was in a relationship that lasted about a minute and half. Hell Kim Kardashian’s blink of the eye marriage lasted longer than my relationship……lol. It was a mistake on my part but not one that I regret. I do not regret giving a relationship a try. I do not regret stepping out of my box. I do not regret leaving. </span><span style="color: magenta;">Sometimes things have to happen in order for us to get to where we need to be or to learn the lesson we are supposed to learn. What I learned is to always listen to me. I usually do listen. I always go with my gut. When my Spidey senses tingle I back up. This time I didn’t. That was my mistake. Luckily my </span><span style="color: magenta;">mistake was not like the misspelled tattoo. I was able to get out unscarred. The point of all of this is to say that we are going to make some decisions that don’t work out. There is nothing to be ashamed of or have regrets about. It’s ok. We are not perfect nor are we being asked to be perfect. The only </span><span style="color: magenta;">time we should have regrets is when you stop living life because of the mistake. Learn from your mistakes and be better next time.</span></span><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: small;"> </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Calibri; font-size: small;">And remember in the end, the only regrets are the decisions you didn’t make and the chances you never take.</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-71977752128245729372017-11-13T11:25:00.005-06:002017-11-13T11:25:57.546-06:00What about me?????
<span style="color: #ff33cc; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">What I have realized about most women is that with a man and/or
kids they will deplete themselves to make sure that everyone else is ok and
then get mad because no one is thinking about their wellbeing. Now in a perfect
world your man would say, “Baby you are amazing and you need to get out and do
something for you” and you do it. In this world the man either doesn’t say it
or you don’t do it when he says it. In my mind you can’t get mad because you
have to do things for you! If you are always waiting on someone else to supply
your need that need will never be met. It’s ok to be a little selfish. I’m sure
your man and/or the kids think about themselves and what they want. Why can’t
you do it? Is it because you will feel guilty? Now that’s just silly. Pull out
paper and pen and write down all of the things that you do and all of the
things that you love ones do for themselves. All of the extracurricular
activities. All of the boys nights. All of the play dates, birthday parties,
dance practice, and troop meetings that you make time for. All of fantasy
football and NFL Sundays at the sports bar that your loved one attends. Now
tell me why you feel guilty for ANYTHING! Make a spa appointment, go to the
movies ALONE, have lunch or dinner with girlfriends, painting with a twist, or
even just sitting at Starbuck’s to people watch. There is absolutely nothing
wrong with having some me time. Actually having “Me” time will make you a
better wife and/or Mommy. It’s like you have recharged yourself and ready to go
back into being Super again. You are wonderful but if you don’t take care of
you….. you will break. Be good to you so that you can be good to others.<o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-22263291112397371282017-11-07T15:58:00.004-06:002017-11-07T15:58:50.959-06:00Frogin' it!<div style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Trust in HIM, Trust in HIM! That’s all I keep seeing. It may come in different wording but the message is always the same, “Trust in HIM!”</span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Obviously GOD knows that he created a batch of crazy people. He has given us the gift of choice knowing that we wouldn’t always choose him. He leaves us to our known devices knowing that we will freak out first. There is nothing wrong with life throwing something at you and you freaking out about it. That is a natural first reaction. Your next reaction is where it really matters. Most likely you are churning those brain cells trying to figure out how to handle the situation all along stressing about it. Once you consider all possibilities this is the time to hand it over. </span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I simply treat HIM like HE is my best friend and I go to HIM. I talk, pray, cry, and at times even beg for HIS guidance. I know that my peace will come when I go to HIM. I know that everything will work itself out when I stay near Him and his word. When times get hard or cloudy I know that all I need is a mustard seed of Faith to get to HIM in order to begin my journey to a peace of mind.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I was speaking to someone this weekend that had a lot on his mind. It wasn’t even a bad situation…. It was just a lot of grey area. Nothing had even happened….. He was just thinking of all of the changes that would need to be made if this situation popped off. Just straight up worried himself into a sour mood. We talked it through and before we ended the call he sounded better than when he initially started talking.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Later he called me back and sounded like his cheerful self. I couldn’t resist asking what happened…. </span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">To which he replied, “Exactly!”</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-50400116370502336022016-02-04T13:34:00.000-06:002016-02-04T13:34:00.466-06:00Do you know or do you KNOW?
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when I was little my grandfather bought a video camera when they first came
out. The really big one you put on your shoulder. He would tape me and you can
hear him talking really loud trying to get it right. “Can you see the red
light?” He would record everything. I would always ask, “Paw Paw will you tape
me please?” I would entertain him for hours!!!! Other than my one woman show I
would also give sermons. Not that we ever went to church but we always
believed. The only scripture I would preach was the book of JOB. I don’t know
why I was so drawn to it. As I sit here now I see it as foreshadowing. How
faithful would I be when times were hard? Would I forsake GOD or would I just
hold on and KNOW that it wouldn’t always be this way?</span></div>
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times it’s sooooooooooooooo hard to endure life’s challenges and still “Keep
the Faith”. Job and Joseph endure a lot of hardships. Well liked and living a
comfortable life it was all snatched from them and they only had Faith to hold
onto. Pushed practically to a perceived breaking point but they still held on. They
held on KNOWING that it would not always be this way and they were right. They
were giving more than they had before. I looked to these books because they
encouraged me to hang in there. I have always said, “Don’t let your lying eyes
have you believing what you think see”. I knew that I was grieving and it was
going to be a minute before things changed. I just had to continue to push
through the hurt. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A lot of people
thought I was at my bottom but they don’t understand my Faith. </span></div>
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know that I am created in GOD’s image so just knowing that I am built strong. We
are given the gift of life but that doesn’t mean that it will always be sweet.
So like Job and Joseph I endure my seasons of planting, germination, and growth.
All along KNOWING that if I keep praying, being grateful for what I do have, and
moving forward that my season of harvest would come. I am no preacher but I
have Faith and in the end I know I will always be fine. I’m smiling right now
just thinking about it. I’m guessing this is my season of harvest because I
have something to say and was able to get it down on paper (or word document….lol).
I hope that you are able to get something out of this and add it to the happy in
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pray every day that we all stay open to GOD’s word and positivity. Push through
the difficulties and submerge ourselves in the victories of life!</span></div>
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remember pain makes you stronger. Tears make you brave. Heartbreak makes you
wiser. So thank the past for a better future.</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-19904121627904836152014-11-05T11:39:00.001-06:002014-11-05T11:39:39.290-06:00It's more than a feeling............
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<span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am sitting here thinking about
when I was going through my storm I was so sad but I knew that it wouldn’t
always be this way. It was hard not to go with what I was feeling. It was so
intense that I couldn’t even focus at times. I literally had to set up
reminders that it was just a feeling not my life. There is a difference in what
you feel and what you know to be true. It’s like when someone steps on your
foot. It hurts but you know that you can still use it and that eventually the
pain will fade. Life is not a toe but the same theory applies. I knew that my
life had not always been this way. I knew that I was in a tough situation but
it would eventually clear up. I knew that grief and the grieving process doesn’t
last forever. I knew that I was ok and just needed to keep moving forward. I
focused as much as I could on what I believed. One day I woke up and I was felt
different. The heaviness that I was feeling was not there. I immediately felt
happy because I didn’t feel sad. I know that sounds crazy but just the relief
of heartache was enough to send me over the moon with happiness. I knew that it
would come because I believe in the promise for an abundant life. If you do not
believe then you will always be grasping at any solution trying to fix it
yourself. Sometimes what you are going through is needed. The old has to be
washed away so that the new can flourish. Let go and let it happen. Drown
yourself in the love and comfort that GOD has created for you. All you need is
a mustard seed size of faith to keep you moving forward and you will eventually
come out of your storm. When you do make it to the other side and you are in a
better place be a blessing for someone else. Sooooo many people were
encouraging me and praying for me during my time of need. Now that I’m in a
better place I just want to be that support that I had for someone else. It’s
ok to have feelings but you have to remind yourself that it’s just a reaction
to the situation(s) that are happening in your life. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE. The promise is an
abundant life with GOD having your back every step of the way. You have to
believe that anything that happens you are built to handle. KNOW that happiness
is still there and when the negative fades you will be able to enjoy this gift
of life!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I know these things to be true
because I’m on the other side. It was a rough road getting here but I’m back
and grateful!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">We will always have feelings but
we cannot allow them to determine our future. BELIEVE that it’s just a moment
and keep pushing forward!</span></span></div>
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by running it’s ok to move using baby steps.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-29384919710430187262014-10-27T14:51:00.000-05:002014-10-27T14:51:49.964-05:00Hoarders..............
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Good afternoon,</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sooooooooo I was watching <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Iyanla “Fix my life”</i> yesterday and she
said something that I just cannot stop thinking about. She said, “When you are
broken it’s like having a crack and the broken people you allow in your life
become an infection in that crack. Do you blame the crack or the infection?”
Most times we blame the infection. We are quick to talk about how that person our
pain. Rarely do we take ownership in the part that we played in this pain. You
can’t have an infection if there is no crack. She went on to talk about
“Forgiveness” and how when you forgive yourself and others then and only then
can you begin to heal. I thought about who I need to forgive. First I focused
on me. I forgave myself for the times that I didn’t think highly of myself and
felt that I wasn’t enough. I forgave me for not separating myself from unhealthy
relationships sooner than later. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
forgave me for not making the greatest decisions because of my baggage. I then
moved on to my parents. I had to dig deep for my mother because she is
lightweight perfect in my eyes….lol. I forgave her for not believing she was
enough and the difficulty she had in believing she was a good parent. Thinking
of things to forgive my father for was much easier…. Right now everything with
him is still fresh.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I forgave him for
not being who I needed him to be when it came to being a father and a friend. I
understand that he was just not capable of that type of commitment. Once I
realized that we actually were able to have a closer relationship. I forgave
him for not showing me the love he had for me which in turn has me always
wanting to prove my love and that I’m deserving enough of someone else’s love. I
actually have forgiven most of these things already but I have never said it
out loud. I take ownership of all the decisions I’ve made and because of that I
can let a lot of things go. People cannot do any more than what their past
experiences allow. The more you hold on to those negative experiences the more
“stuff” you have to carry. Some things that happen to us are not our fault but
when we hold on to that “stuff” or we don’t take ownership of our part in the
situation we project that negativity on to the next person. In order to have a
healthy relationship of any kind we have to forgive and let go. Forgiving is
not saying you are cool with what happened it’s saying that it happened, it’s
over, and in order to heal you have to let it go. Letting go is a freeing
feeling. It allows you to receive any happiness that comes your way. It also
keeps you from doing what was done to you. The things that people hate they
actually do to others. *yeah go ahead and think about it* How does the saying
go “Hurt people, hurt people” all of the things that you are afraid of or can’t
stand you mostly have done or are doing to someone else. You can’t expect a different
life if you are operating through past hurts that doesn’t exist anymore. Take
ownership of your own “stuff”, forgive, and let go…..</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Every day you wake up is a gift
from GOD….. don’t let your past ruin your present.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">AND remember don’t let others’
actions dictate your reactions………..</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-56321410809692337312014-10-17T16:15:00.002-05:002014-10-17T16:15:39.526-05:00Be Fearless!
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Good afternoon,</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Soooooooooooooooooooooo what I
feel is another vulnerable post…….</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Soon I’m going to be clear…….</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I was thinking about how I was holding
on to things and it was due to fear. I allowed myself to sit in fear because I
didn’t want to be lonely. Well ends up I felt that way anyway because I was
trying to build on things that weren’t for me. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I consider myself a pretty strong woman but I’m
still human. Other than when I was married I did not have a lot of lonely
moments. Maybe because I’m an only child…..I’m not sure. Anywhoo…. I’ve had
more than my fair share of lonely moments this year. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>GOD didn’t create us to be lonely. GOD gifted
us with the power of choice so that we would choose HIM and we would never be
lonely. Sounds easy right? Well because we are human the fear of loneliness does
creep in. We want certain things but because of past experiences we allow them
to hold us back from greatness. Lack of patience is another reason that fear is
able to find its way into our lives. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then
on top of that we get a hold of something looks good but it doesn’t really make
you happy. Somewhere in our warped minds we decide that it’s better than having
nothing. What sense does that make? That’s one of the reasons I admire kids. No
baggage. They are free to try anything that feels good to them. We have to
understand that loneliness is an emotion and fear elevates it. Then toss in a
couple of kicks in the head in a year and you will really freak out. All along
you are not doing what you are supposed to be doing….. and that’s trusting GOD.
If it’s not for you “it” will let you know. It’s like tight pants….after while
it becomes uncomfortable. If you don’t make moves then those pants begin to
hurt. Stop hurting yourself trying to keep it. Step out on Faith and trust that
GOD has your back. Think about it this way….. we all hold on to things that hurt
and hold us back. You have survived but it doesn’t really bring you any joy.
Why not let go and try something new? What do you really have to lose? The
promise is JOY…… let go.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Wishing you a fearless life…..
Let go of pain and let in love…………….</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">AND remember everything you want
is on the other side of fear.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">E</span></span></div>
Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-89943753970527295582014-10-15T16:48:00.002-05:002014-10-15T16:48:43.714-05:00The Silver lining
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Good afternoon,</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you really know what “Happy
in the midst of it all” really means?</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s like…… the day that it
rains but you see a rainbow in the sky. It’s like looking at the hot sun but
the face you make when you squint looks like a smile. It’s is being thankful
for life even when you are hurting. That little bit of “Happy” is all you need
to keep you going. It’s hope, faith, and trust that it won’t always be this
way. Just thinking about it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. GOD doesn’t
expect us to be perfect. When you feel like you are failing HIM….you’re not. As
long as you look to HIM and keep moving HE will keep laying down your path. Trust
me on this. 2014 has flippin’ sucked but yet I still look forward to better
days. With each blow and every tear there is still hope. *smile* October is
never really a great month for me. This is the month that my mother moved in
with GOD. It’s never easy but I always make it through. I’m very thankful to
have a GOD that cares enough to comfort me through my trying times. HE has
provided me with great friends and family and when they are not available GOD
sends whatever is necessary to aide me in this journey of life. How can I not
be happy about that? Life has not always been this way and I know that it won’t
stay this way. I have that little piece of “Happy” that keeps me going. I think
back to when I was happy every single day. Good Times…… I know that feeling
will come again. Does that mean that I won’t ever have a bad day or a day when
I have a longing? No. I just means that I have to tap into that little bit of “Happy”
and wait for GOD to direct my steps. Whatever has happened I am in the process
of releasing because if I want those old days back I have to be free. Hands,
heart, and mind open to the blessings with my name on it. Right now I’m totally
happy in the midst of it all and it’s a wonderful feeling.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m wishing the same for you.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">AND remember happiness starts
with you.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">MAKE IT GREAT!!!!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">E</span></span></div>
Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-70560740074246434802014-10-08T14:01:00.001-05:002014-10-08T14:01:30.480-05:00The Smackdown..............
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Century","serif";">Good
afternoon,</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Century","serif";">There
is this story in the bible where GOD gave directions to Moses and Aaron and the
Israelites were to follow them. Well they were frustrated because they were
promised a wonderful life and it was clearly taking too long for them. They wanted
to do it their way and be in charge. Well they kept pressing the issue and
making their own plans. GOD got so frustrated with their behavior that HE
decided to open up the ground and swallow them. The point of me telling you
this is that GOD has a plan for us and if we don’t let go and follow HIS
direction GOD will snatch it from you and you will be swallowed up by life. I
feel like I have been talking about this subject a lot lately. I guess it’s
because I have been letting a lot of things go. I do not want to be in the
position where I’m holding on to something that GOD wants me to let go and HE
has to make the situation so bad that I have to let go because it hurts so much
(although the more I think about it….hmmmm…) I also do not want to stand in HIS
way making life much harder for myself. Letting go of it all means that I have
to sit in the “Unknown” and wait. No one likes the unknown…. especially having
to wait for something that you have no idea about. When the unknown happens we
instantly react with some half of a plan. When it doesn’t work we feel frazzled
and at times hopeless. Well if we were not so hard headed and just followed we
would be in a much better position. Sometimes you just have to be still. Wait
on instructions on what to do next. It will be presented to you in a way that
you will notice….. that’s if you are focused on GOD. We are not perfect so
there will be times that we stray from the path. You just have to get back on
track. Let go of the familiar….because it may not be what you need. If it’s
really for you then it will come back to you. Let it go and trust GOD. Honestly
at this point what do you have to lose? What I have realized is that pain
doesn’t last forever. Step out on Faith. You can be hard headed if you want…..
it will be just a matter of time before GOD etch a sketch’s your life and you
have to start over anyway….</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Century","serif";">Let
go and live free.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Century","serif";">And
REMEMBER a hard head makes a soft behind…..</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Century","serif";">MAKE
IT GREAT!</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-18218022222122456962014-10-03T15:07:00.000-05:002014-10-03T15:07:34.166-05:00Blanket Blues........<div style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="color: #cc0099; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">Good afternoon,</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0099;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">Soooooo I have been in a state of grief for a hot minute now. It got so intense that I thought, “I need to see someone for some help” I attempted to call a professional few times never being able to get through. *Sign* All along every message that was sent to me was saying, “Hold on, Hang in there, Trust the process”. Apparently I am just supposed to be still and let it happen. It’s a process. I have been told to let go and focus on GOD. The problem was that I didn’t want to let go because the fear of the unknown. Not that the things I was holding onto were positive. Actually holding on was adding to the pain but letting go would leave me vulnerable. I had been trying to work on that focus but the fear and hurt was weighing heavy on my heart. Fear that I was losing and would be without. Hurt from all of the things that had happened this year. Finally I let go of everything and just sat there in my pain. Oh how it hurt. Thankfully GOD has set me up with an awesome team, daily email reminders, and even a Secret Sister to encourage me during this process. All I have to do is let go and focus on HIM. Why is it so hard to do that? That’s all that HE is asking of me. I pray for comfort and I receive it why am I still getting in my own way? Yesterday was one of those “Getting in my own way” type of days. All of the comforts just couldn’t get close enough because I was wrapped in my hurt. This year I have learned that I have to be vulnerable and open if I want to feel and be loved during my storm (and not in a storm)…… lately being vulnerable has me feeling like I’m standing in the middle of I-10 naked during 5:00 rush hour traffic. O_O The crazy thing is that the more I let go (or talk) the less pressure (hurt) I feel. Yesterday I was open and vulnerable and received nothing but love. That was very comforting. This morning I woke up happy and open. I prayed for clarity and guidance. I get to work and all my messages from GOD were to “TRUST HIM”. The first email I read was Proverbs 3:5-6, which btw is my favorite scripture. Don’t go by what you think. Trust GOD and he will guide you. The next thing I read is my second favorite scripture “For We Walk By Faith and Not by Sight”. Again…..don’t go by what you see. Trust HIM. While I’m reading I receive a text that say to be patient. HE always is on time….just not my time. Trust HIM. The last thing I read this morning tells me to be calm and assured. When that happens I will be able to endure the rest of this process. Trust HIM. Now this doesn’t say that I will not have another not so great day it just means that GOD is there and I need to trust HIM. Just hold on…it’s ok. I say all of this to you because I want you to know that we can’t get all tangled up in our feelings to the point where we miss all of the comforts sent to aid us in the process. The journey may be hard at times but we are built for it. There is a promise of a great life but we have to trust GOD. We will have what’s planned for us but we have to be open in order to receive. Grief happens and there is nothing we can do about it. There is a process in place to handle that. Let go of what doesn’t support you. Take comfort in the messages and people that are sent to assist you through the process. Be still, be open, be comforted, and be restored.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0099;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">Wishing you all the happiness your heart can hold. </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0099;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0099;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">AND remember an uncluttered mind is a happy mind. Free yourself.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0099;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">MAKE IT GREAT! </span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-80574216493439178302014-09-22T12:48:00.001-05:002014-09-22T12:48:18.626-05:00Clean your glasses.......
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Perception is a mutha………</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I have literally been in
constant thought all year. Now that may not sound like a big deal but I feel
that too much thinking can drive you crazy especially if you are not able to
make sense out of anything. Why are these things happening to me? What am I
missing? How can I fix it? These are just some of the thoughts that I’ve had
this year. It’s like a flushing toilet…..round and round and round. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Although I’m still feeling a little lost it
seems that my perception is changing. It finally dawned on me that my anxiety
is high because in my mind I’m “losing” and there is nothing I can do about it.
I lost another parent. I lost a job. I lost a love. What’s so crazy is that the
year is not even over…… So my perception is that from my experiences this year
I am going to lose and I need to battle it. Fix it. Make it right. I was
listening to a sermon last week and the pastor said, “You’re fighting a battle
that is not yours because your past has shaped how you see your present”. This
is true because I was in a state of losing or so I thought. Right now even
though the past still stings I am looking at things a little differently. Yes,
I lost my father but it wasn’t like I was daddy’s little girl. I love him. I
always will but we did not have the closest relationship. I tried really hard
to build a closer relationship but we were only able to work with what we had
at the time. So what did I really lose? It’s the perception of having parents
to share my life celebrations. For those that may be a little lost a life
celebration (to me) are things like graduations, weddings, babies, success in
your career, awards, etc….. Well that is gone. Honestly after my mom passed it
was gone. I have never shared a life celebration with my dad. We have spent
time together and I have positive memories but no life celebrations. Now as for
this job…… they just kicked me to the curb literally a week after I returned
from my father’s funeral. It hurt because I was faithful and worked hard. I
also have never been fired, let go, or laid off from a job. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Now that I look back what did I lose? I never
really had the job. I was a contractor. It was never mine to begin with. I just
had hopes that since I had been faithful to them they would be to me. WRONG. Oh
well….. Then I lost a love……. Well that was my perception. In actuality I’m
still in love. (Yes I said it) It’s just that it’s an unrequited love. (And yes
I said that) Sooooo again what did I lose? Oh….I lost the perception that there
could be something more. Like I said in the beginning, “Perception is a mutha”.
What I have to remind myself is what is for me will be for me and what is not
for me will be taken away. It doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing it just may be
that there is something else that has my name on it. I won’t have to fight and
battle for it either. I will always do my part but it won’t feel like it’s just
me. I have to be able to let go of what’s not mine and that’s the hard part. I
believe that if I work at it then it will be for me but that’s that square peg
in the round hole way of thinking. Today’s post it note on the computer will
say, “You are not losing. You are just making room for the things that belong
to you”. Like I have always said, “Life is not easy but it will always be worth
living.” I hope that all of you are always able to find the positive in every
storm and celebrate this gift called “Life”.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">AND remember we can complain
because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">MAKE IT GREAT</span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-47839173237358156362014-09-19T10:37:00.000-05:002014-09-19T10:37:30.114-05:00Are you gon' eat yo cornbread?
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">Good
morning,</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">I’m
sitting here thinking that the other day I had three full conversations about
“For better or for worse”. If you know me then you know after 3 times of
hearing, seeing, or talking about something that gerbil starts running. Even
though I am divorced I still believe in these vows.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was my decision to leave but that was only
after I was told that he didn’t want the responsibility of being married. After
that there was nothing left to work on. The thing about this particular vow is
that both parties have to apply those words to their life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do my part to love, communicate and
compromise and he has to do the same. Without it then the relationship will
fall apart. With me I always want to communicate so that we are both clear and
on the same page.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m not mad or coming
for him I just need clarity so that I don’t have those feelings. Not everyone
feels this way and I’m I know that this is one of the main reasons that I’m
divorced. There was no communication when I was married. Now don’t get me wrong
we were friends and could clown around about anything but when it came to
important things I got nothing. If I needed to know something or wanted him to
hear something I had to say we had to go to our counselor to make that happen.
He even told me that there were things that he would never tell me. Who does
that? How can you be with someone who keeps secrets or won’t let you in? Through
all of this I still worked on it because in my mind it was “For better or for
worse” and at that time it was worse. It would get to the better side right?
Well….. it fell apart. Sooooooo……… thinking about these conversations I found
that “Communication” was the common element. There will be rough times in every
relationship but with communication it can help makes things better. No
communication killed my marriage, lack of communication is breaking a marriage
down as we speak, and healthy communication saved a failing marriage. Powerful.
I can say this…..I won’t be in a relationship without communication. I’m super
cool on that. If he gives me nothing then I can’t invest and will fall back.
I’m not looking for the best communicator I desire someone that will put forth
the effort to communicate. The worse thing in a relationship is to assume. We
never assume in the positive if there are no rainbows, glitter, or ESPN chime.
(lol) Might as well be single and alone than in a situation lonely and lost.
I’ve been there, done that, and bought the blank t-shirt…….</span></div>
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will always be a cheerleader for a healthy relationship. Everyone wants to be
and feel loved and it takes effective communication to make that happen. So get
to talking.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc00cc; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">AND
remember a closed mouth don’t get fed…. Don’t starve yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">Good afternoon,</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">Have
you ever listened to a song but never let the words absorb into you mind. I
mean you know all of the words but the just never quite hit you? Well it’s
happen to me. I love this song “Hard Way” by Miguel. The chorus always moved me
but it hit me like a ton of bricks the other day.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">You
know the saying, “A hard head makes a soft a$$”. That’s what this song is
about. I think that this saying was made for me. I am loyal to things and
people when I shouldn’t be. At some point I know that things are wrong but I
keep pushing…. thinking if I love more, work harder, ask the right questions,
be a better communicator, don’t get frustrated, be vulnerable, and be patient
things will work out. Seems like a good plan right? Well the problem lies when
I’m planning for something that is not for me. So…GOD sends me hints. I hear
them but I’m hoping that it works out for me. I grind harder. At some point do
get to a place where I see that nothing is working. I start to do something
else but I come back to it because I begin to think that maybe I gave up too
soon or it would be easier for me to work on this than to start over. I truly
believe there will be a reward for me in the end. GOD then sends me another
round of hints that this is not it. I can’t lie I probably ignore those…..smh
because I have a plan! I am determined to make this square peg fit into this
round hole. Finally GOD makes it hurt. HE pushes me out of the situation and I
am devastated because I just knew that I could make it work. No I can’t. That
is not GOD’s plan. I’m always praying for guidance and for GOD to keep showing
me the way. I obviously make it hard for HIM because I’m always off doing my
own thing. Just hard headed. Now how do I expect to receive my blessings when
I’m not at the place to receive them? If I would have just done what HE said in
the first place I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I can’t even
blame people for being who they are…..They continuously showed me who they were
and I ignored it thinking that I could handle it. Well I can’t and GOD knows
this because it wasn’t mine in the first place. I don’t know what GOD’s plan is
right now but I have to let go so that I will be open and receptive to what HE
wants for me. My little heart has taken a licking this year and a lot of it is
due to my own decision making……BUT it’s ok. I got it now. This heartache too
shall pass. I’ll learn from this year and be better with each passing day. </span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Georgia","serif";">Just
hate that I always have to learn the hard way…….</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-43658487621922673202014-09-11T22:01:00.000-05:002014-09-11T22:01:56.513-05:00Fill out top portion only...........<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Hang in there! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sometimes these words do not provide much comfort when you are going through it. What you really want is a solution. You want an answer to your prayers. Oh and not just an answer but a detailed solution. Most times it’s not that you are not trying to make things better it’s just things are not changing. You feel lost and your issue is plucking at your self-esteem. So really what does it mean to hang in there? I’m here to tell you it means just that…..Hang in there. I always want to fix whatever it is and keep it moving but there are times that I just have to wait. It’s not easy. We want things to happen in the time that we want it and that’s not how it works. So you do your part and then GOD does HIS part. Easy right? I was watching a sermon and the bishop said, “The hardest thing in the world is to figure out what’s my responsibility and what’s GOD’s responsibility”. Oh how true…… Hanging in there means do your part and then stand strong knowing that GOD will do HIS part. We can’t do both. If we have faith that means that we trust so we have to hang in there. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do what you can and then stand back and let it go. How do you let it go? (I know I heard you ask that….or maybe it was me) Letting it go is just that. Stop trying to find other solutions. Stop wondering about this and that. Every time something pops in your head tell yourself, “NO” and remind yourself that GOD is working and HE doesn’t need your help for HIS part. Plus, I have never seen any random burning bushes so how will you know when GOD is trying to show you something if you are busy trying to fix your life by yourself? I know that I have personally run GOD a little cray cray this year because I was trying to fix it. I would pray for help and then not accept what HE would send my way because I was too busy trying to do it myself or it didn’t look how I envisioned it to look. Well what’s the point in asking?…..smh. Even now I have to fall back because I don’t want to force things that may now be what I need. I will never give up doing my part I just have to not be so invested that I miss what is being presented to me.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sooooooo hang in there! You are doing what you can. While you are waiting stay prayed up, spend time with friends and family. Get in to a hobby. Do things that somewhat will take your mind off of your troubles. Be open to that answer……<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">And remember life wouldn’t be so hard if you let GOD hold your elbow.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">(Thanks Athena)<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-77086025515722022012014-09-10T15:56:00.001-05:002014-09-10T15:56:25.057-05:00The Rat Race<div style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Century","serif";">Have
you ever seen a mouse in a maze? They run around attempting to reach a goal.
There are always a few walls and then an opening. When they hit all of the
walls they eventually find the openings to continue on their journey. Sometimes
it’s easy and sometimes not so much. That’s life…. right. We keep hitting the
walls until we recognize the opening. Unfortunately, there are times when we
attempt to make a way out of no way. We see the wall but still think that this
is an option. We even pray for this wall to come down when we have a perfect
view of the way out…..we think we know better. We get so wrapped up in
something that is not for us that we overlook things that will make our lives
easier. What’s so crazy is that even if that wall was to come down there is no
guarantee that there is not another wall behind it. Then what? We end up going
the way that we should have gone in the first place. Life is not always easy
and there will be times when we feel lost but just take a moment…..Be still….
The answer is there and when we let go of what we “know” or what we “think” we
make ourselves available to what it really is.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Century","serif";">*Raises
water bottle* Here is to being open-minded!</span></div>
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remember we are not perfect but we can always work on being better than we were
yesterday.</span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Century","serif";">Love
you all.</span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-63310786989300407422014-08-27T16:48:00.002-05:002014-08-27T16:49:06.009-05:00Keep it up if you want to........<br />
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Good afternoon,</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">You know…. I have a saying,
“Don’t poke the bear”. </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Eventually that bear will react
and it won’t be in a way that you’ll like. I was raised to treat people the way
that you want to be treated. So it amazes me how some people can treat others
in a way that they would not allow themselves to be treated…… oh but it’s ok
because if they keep poking that bear it will all flip on them. Maybe because
the bear is not up on its hind legs and growling that people forget it’s still
a bear. I had this experience this year. In general I don’t entertain drama
because it takes so much out of you. It is really draining and that’s not how I
live my life. With that being said with the passing of my father all of these
random people began to poke me. I have never done anything to them and actually
a majority of them have never even seen me angry. I attempted to ignore it and
just get through the whole situation. Well I woke up at my aunts’ house and I
told her that I was tired….. tired of crying, tired of the voicemails, tired of
the hate, and tired of people trying to take advantage of me. She gave me some
words of encouragement, a hug, and sent me on my way. Well unbeknownst to me
some people were waiting on me with their pokers and when they poked me I
snapped. I smooth went off and cursed a man out. I didn’t even know him but
since “they” decided to send him in as the representative he got it. I didn’t
bother to hold back. I had been holding it long enough. After our interaction I
went back to my aunts’ house and cried like I’ve never had before…… I felt
defeated. I felt like I had failed because I allowed them to take me to a place
that I didn’t want to be. I felt like I’m better and should never stoop down to
meet their negative behavior. I later realized that they had just pushed me to
my limits. It doesn’t change how I live my life it was like a kettle that was
at its boiling point. I didn’t have any more problems after I popped off. No
more calls, voicemails, or Facebook messages. I am not in their lives and they
are not in mine and that is how it has to be. I am still working with the Lord
to break down the disdain I have for those people but I no longer have to deal
with their negativity. It hurt because I assumed that they would care for me
and what I was going through. I thought I meant something to them. I learned
the difference between family and relatives. Like everything in life, that
situation came to pass and for that I am grateful. My point in all of this is
don’t do something to someone that you wouldn’t want to happen to you. People
can only take so much before they move away from you. Even though I don’t
always act like a bear doesn’t mean that I am not one. I am worthy of a happy
life and intend on living that way by any means necessary.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I hope we are able to take a stand
on the things that we deserve. Sometimes people are not able to see it and if
their treatment does not meet with those requirements then we have to go.
Simple as that.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: small;">Live your life like a cake.....sweet and bringing a smile to everyone's face!</span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #ff33cc;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">And remember everyone has enough
good qualities and is worthy of being treated well. Don’t poke the bear.</span></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-33773763283717713512014-01-08T08:54:00.001-06:002014-01-08T08:54:55.110-06:00Can you see the trees?<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good morning,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Yesterday I was talking with my aunt about all of my newfound drama and how I was having a hard time handling it. She was encouraging me and she kept saying, “But I’m preaching to the choir because you know this. You are always telling people this same thing”. I agreed with her but I told her that now that I’m in the hole it’s hard to see the trees. That had me thinking and sparked a desire to write. It’s always easier to encourage someone when you are not in the midst of your own storm. You may even be able to be supportive when your storm is just sprinkling……BUT when you are in a hole and the rain is pouring you are not able to see anything. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">So this morning I was speaking with a friend and I was telling him about last night’s conversation and I said, “I’m always describing the trees (encouraging) to people but now that I’m in the hole I’m not able to see the trees and it’s hard to remember what they look like. So now I need the people who care and love me to help me see the trees again”.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">In other words, we all have to be reminded not to let the storms of life tear us down because we are GREAT and we have great lives. It’s a moment not a lifetime. I will not let what a few people have done to cause me grief overshadow all of the LOVE that I have received. I will instead wrap myself in their love and know that even though I’m hurting, my tears are pain leaving my body and all this love is waiting to fill me up again. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Let love fill you up.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Thank you again for loving me…….<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">“Happy in the midst of it all”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-64830058873770306212013-10-08T16:43:00.001-05:002013-10-08T16:43:18.445-05:00Are you ready for that train?<p dir=ltr><br>
Good afternoon,<br>
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You are not what you feel.... don't let your lying eyes tell you that you've been defeated because times have gotten rough.  GOD is always on the job. Even when your faith is shaky GOD's still in charge. Keep preparing for better even through your tears. This is not the time to give up. Crying is just weakness leaving the body. You are so much strong than you even realize. There is nowhere in the Bible that it says that life would be is easy and you would always be happy but you have been built to endure all of your life storms. You are just in the hole. (Refer to “What you know about Joe”) I promise it won’t always be this way. In one of my favorite movies the lead actress says, “They say they built the train tracks over the alps between Vienna and Venice before there was a train that could make the trip... they built it anyway. They know one day the train would come.” A better time will come….Just keep building. GOD works in HIS time and HIS time is always perfect. HE came in human flesh too see the trials and tribulations that we would have to endure. Soooooo, HE knows that times will be rough.....but HE gave you the gift of choice to come to him. Think about it this way....if your sister, brother, child, cousin, older parent or friend has a problem you would want them to come to you for help and support right? Well that's what GOD wants. Come to HIM and find rest. Meditate and get closer to HIM. Let your mind be cleared so you will be able to see the solution to your problem. The answer most times is already there but you are not able to see it because you are too wrapped up in your negative feelings.  Work on positive thinking and forward movement. KEEP BUILDING AND TRUST GOD!<br>
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AND remember Trust in the Lord with all of your heart, and do not lean to your own understanding. In all of your ways acknowledge HIM, and he will make straight your paths. – Proverbs 3:5-6<br>
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MAKE IT GREAT!</p>
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Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-26713551701010274922013-09-20T15:53:00.001-05:002013-09-20T15:53:28.084-05:00God are you there?<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good Afternoon,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Boy I tell ya.....from the people that I spoken to lately HE is not there. At least that's how they feel. Their pain is so severe that that can't see past their noses. I know their pain will not always be this extreme but right now, they may as well be blind. This is the time that your support system (or as Katt Williams would say..."Your Team") should step in.... They need to stay prayed up for you when you can't. They stick with you and are always there....hanging in the background like groupies or awesome backup singers. GOD knows us....he knows everything. We don't have a clue and that's why most times we run around like chickens with our heads cut off in pain. There is a lack of trust and when that happens you have to get that focus back. When you are in so much pain that you don't know what to pray for or are questioning GOD's presence in your life is when you get real simple. Just ask (or beg) for GOD to hold your elbow. Help you to get through the situation. You have been given the gift of choice because HE always wants you to choose HIM. So, HE is waiting on you. Ask him to heal your heart. Beg for strength to get through it. Meditate on HIS love for you. HE knows we are human and there will be times of weakness. Times of pain. Times of depression......BUT since we are created in HIS image we are sooooo much stronger than we think. FIGHT! Have your team stay prayed up! Choose HIM and HE will guide you through this storm. I'm not saying this because it's in the bible, in a song, or some urban legend. I can tell you this because HE is constantly guiding me through every storm. Just when I think I can't take anymore GOD steps in..... AND I KNOW if HE takes the time out to do it for me HE will do it for you. You just have to keep believing and keep fighting. Life will not always be easy but it's always worth living.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">AND remember......disappointments happen, unexpected things occur but GOD is never caught off guard. If you’re his child, then relax, HE’s got you.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E</span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-91983948649554703072013-09-19T15:40:00.001-05:002013-09-19T15:40:54.678-05:00Looking for happy?...................<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good afternoon,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom. – Anthony de Mello – The way to Love<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">I mean really is there anything else to say? We don't enjoy just being alive, being happy just because nothing is happening, or appreciating the small everyday things. We want life to be a certain way and when it's not that all we are able to think about. Don't let things that don't matter ruin an otherwise great day. Every day is a gift and it's up to you how you will react to it. Think about it like this....If you worked really hard and saved all of your money to buy your loved one a gift. They took one look at it and said, "But this is not the color I wanted" wouldn't you be a little pissed? I mean it's the thought that counts right? Well GOD gives you a new chance at life everyday and we complain all day about how it's not how you want it to be. You ever think that GOD may be like, "Well I'm not giving them anything else until they appreciate what I have already given them". Just a little something to think about. I understand that there are some things in life that will make you unhappy. You just can't tattoo those things to your heart. How can HE bless your heart when you are stressing your heart? Be happy about all and nothing at the same time. Appreciate what you have and know when you extend your hands to GOD to give HIM praise they are closer for HIM to drop blessings into.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">AND remember the happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E</span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-7998744297983209352013-09-18T16:46:00.001-05:002013-09-18T16:46:41.986-05:00Love don't make no sense....or does it?<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good afternoon,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Love is not a black and white thing. Everyone on this earth receives love in a different way. I have previously written about the 5 Love Languages. For those who may not be familiar with the book, the 5 love languages explains how there are five love languages and each of us has one that speaks directly to our hearts. If the primary language is not demonstrated then none of the others will be fulfilling. We have a tendency to speak our own love language towards the people in our life. That would be fine if everyone had the same primary love language. What we have to do is figure out how the other person receives love and attempt to do those things so that they feel loved and cared for.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That seems to be where people fall short. I have heard from many people telling me all of the things that have or had done to attempt to make their significant other happy. It wasn’t that it was bad….actually most of it was awesome but it couldn’t be recognized because the primary love language was not included. It’s like being in a dark room and all of these beautiful portraits are in there but no one can appreciate it because the missing element is the light. Speaking to someone’s love language is turning on that light. Then they will be able to see the other things that are going on around them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Someone once told me that Love is a choice. I somewhat agree. I believe that you have feelings for someone and you choose to open yourself and allow those feelings to grow. Love is just that….Love. It’s all about how you choose to use it. There are slight differences in the way you love depending on the person but love is love. The point of love is each person making that other person feel loved. The problem comes when one or both people are only concerned about their own love. When it’s all about you how do you expect that other person to feel loved? That makes sense huh? You fell in love or chose love because what that other person brought to the table. Well somewhere along the way things changed. So what do you do? You sit and have a knee to knee. Be open and honest about your needs and wants. Then each person works on those things knowing that with some effort things will eventually get back on track. I have always been of the belief that if I work hard to please you and you do the same for me then we will be fine. People think there is a lot to love but it’s not really. Through communication and effort it can all be figured out…..you just need two willing people. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">I hope I made some sense out of this thing called love…….<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">AND remember love lasts because two people made a decision….. to keep it, fight for it, and work on it.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E<o:p></o:p></span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-34074206860166028222013-09-17T15:15:00.001-05:002013-09-17T15:15:52.190-05:00Performance review time 2..........<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good afternoon,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">It’s that time again……<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Confession time….. CLAWD……Ok here goes….I have been struggling with my feelings. There I said it! As for those of you that really know me I do not care for my “girl” feelings. I love to feel happy, loved, loving, silly, and things of that nature. When it comes to those feelings of uncertainty, lost, confused I just can’t deal. Lately it just seems like things have not been right. I attempted to just chill out and let things run its course but it only seemed to get worse. My sleep, dreams, and appetite were being attacked by these “feelings”. I know me very well so I had a come to Jesus with myself that everything needed to be addressed. I reviewed how it all happened and then with each item I thought it out and wrote down a plan of action. One thing no one (including myself) will do is keep my happy from me. I took the first step and through several forms of communication, I dealt with each situation. CAN I TELL YOU how free I feel right now…. I actually got some sleep last night. There are still some residual feelings left that need to be confronted but the whole point of this is being true to yourself. We are not perfect and will never be BUT we should always be honest with ourselves. It will save you days, months, and years of anguish. I believe the reason most people are not honest with themselves or with others is that they are afraid of being judged. The thing is that if you feel that someone will judge you for something you have done or who you are you actually judged you first. (I’ll wait while that sinks in *<b>crosses arms</b>*) That’s why you scramble to hide who you really are. You are embarrassed about you. O_O We all do it but I am here to tell you that when you admit who you really are it’s sooooo freeing. After I free myself from my own thoughts, I always give myself the side eye because I should have done it earlier.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Stand up and be honest. “Hello my name is E and I don’t like being vulnerable, I hate my “girl” feelings, and because I am not vulnerable I can come off as the Ice Queen* Now you know me….sorta…lol. I always wonder if people are aware of themselves but then I think if they were not aware then they wouldn’t have to hide who they are…..They are just not being honest. If you review your performance first and are happy with the way you are living your life then really, that’s all that matters. When you are uncomfortable with you so will everyone else. Free yourself!<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">And remember the strongest people are the ones that can admit their mistakes and take the steps to become better people.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E</span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-75445617293136286592013-09-17T11:04:00.001-05:002013-09-17T11:04:05.573-05:00Going through it.......<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good morning,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Right now it seems like everyone I know is going through it. I mean it’s to the point that I know my words are falling on deaf ears. Heck one person told me that they didn’t really want to hear any hang in there talk and I hadn’t even said anything. It hurt because I don’t like seeing people I care about feel that way but I totally understand. There will be times where “It will be ok” will make you want to snap on someone. You want a “fix” to the problem and nothing else will do. Well I am here to tell you that a fix will come. I don’t know what it will be, when it will come, or how it will be delivered. What I do know is that everything has a fix. Everything will change. That’s life. What you are feeling right now is a valid feeling but you will not always feel this way. During this waiting period prepare your mind for change. Really dig your heels into the ground and work on it. Do not leave yourself in a dysfunctional state of mind because GOD will not repeatedly sow into dysfunction because you will be blocked to his answer a.k.a “The Fix”. This message may not be well received at this moment but I will continue to plant this in our heads because if we want better we have to get ourselves ready to receive better.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All I ask is that you don’t give up…..Life will never be easy but it’s worth the work, struggle, and tears.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">And remember sadness, hurt, and pain are like a head cold…..with patience it too shall pass.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E<o:p></o:p></span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7984753621742761979.post-71798399149914852402013-09-16T13:56:00.001-05:002013-09-16T13:56:59.820-05:00Happiness is in the eye of the beholder<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">Good afternoon, <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">I know that the title of this post is not how the saying really goes but it still has some truth to it. Happiness is in the eye of the beholder simply means what makes you happy may not necessarily make someone else happy. That's why trying to fit into what society, your friends, and your family thinks should make you happy may not always be correct. It's like saying if 12 people like pig feet then you should as well. Well I don't like pig feet and I don't care how much you try to jazz up the description.... I'll pass thanks. I know who I am, what I like, and what I want. Now there have been times that I have gotten off track but the good thing is that the track is always there for me to get back on. I have to make up my mind to change and BAM there is that track….lol. Discover what makes you smile and feel all warm inside and nurture it. If it no longer makes you happy then DECIDE to do something different. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to abandon the whole thing it may just mean you need to adjust some things. The point is that a decision has to be made to see a change. Don’t be afraid of change. Life is constantly changing so why not seek out things that make you happy? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It's your life and you have to be the main person filling it up with happiness. Sooooooo like I said, "Happiness is in the eye of the beholder".....what makes you happy?<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">AND remember happiness is the person who knows what to remember of the past, what to enjoy in the present, and what to plan for in the future.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">MAKE IT GREAT!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';">E</span></div>Ehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10444235883859808780noreply@blogger.com0