Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Crawl.....

Wonderful morning!

So, I’m listening to this Chris Brown song “Crawl” and it so powerful. When you are knocked down you have pick yourself up.

He sings:

If we crawl
Till we can walk again
Then we'll run
Until we're strong enough to jump
Then we'll fly
Until there is no end
So let’s crawl, crawl, crawl
Back to love, Yeah

This is how you should live your life. In the beginning, it may seem as if you hurt so bad that you will never be able to recover. That’s when you begin to crawl. When you make the decision to heal you just have to take that first step. Step out on Faith. Believe you can do it. Once you have started to crawl you will find that people will be placed in your life to encourage you and before you know it, you will start to walk again. The confidence will kick in and your walk will become a run. The heat from your run is actually your heart pumping and breaking down walls. Before your know it you have jumped off the cliff of love and flying into a happy future. This all depends on how you handle the situation.

Sad people have made up their minds that nothing will work. I have heard women say that they can’t be in a relationship because they are not able to control their emotions. Men have confided in me that they can’t trust women because of the past. Well they are right! You will not have a better life because YOU have decided that you don’t want better. You are afraid of being hurt but you end up more hurt holding on to the unnecessary. The thing is you will take risk on other things like jobs, food, cars, phones….etc but you will not take a chance on love. Interesting.

I’m not just talking about love from another person either. The love for you is very important. Holding on to past hurts really is hurting you. You are the one that becomes desperate and end up with a bum. It’s you that pushes away all the good for the fear of the pain. You are the reason that other person left because you wouldn’t open up. You miss out on the love of family, friends, and significant others because of your baggage. Learn to free yourself. Step out on Faith!

You don’t have to do it all at one time. Just begin with a crawl. You are stronger than you ever imagined. You are made from greatness and that means that you are special. Think about all that you have already been through in your life. You are still here. Why? You are still here because you are unbreakable. There may be a crack but it can be repaired. So let’s get back to love. Love of yourself. Love of life. Love of others. Let your love shine bright today!

I hope today is the day that you decide to crawl.

AND remember there is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame that heats our soul, energizes our spirit, and supplies passion to our lives.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!!!!!

E

Monday, January 30, 2012

Better!

Wonderful morning!

I’m on 100 today! My cup runneth over with happiness. I really am not able to express to you the happiness that I am feeling right now. Nothing has happened to cause this feeling. I woke up and smiled, grateful for another day. I’m feeling good about me and what the day will bring.

I have been listening to one of my favorite songs “Better without you” by Kelly Rowland. Now she is clearly talking about a man but I apply this song to every storm in my life. Anything that comes my way I attempt to be better after it happens. My storms are there to teach me. The obstacles appear to make me better. The times when I thought that I couldn’t make it without something I found that, I was stronger after it. I told everyone that after I made it through the initial pain of losing my mom I knew that anything after that would be easy. I really thought that losing her would be the ticket to get me into the crazy house….lol. Even though I miss her dearly, I am so much stronger. Every time something is removed out of my life, something better comes along. That’s why I tell you not to sit and live in your sad feelings. Something better is going to happen and you don’t want to miss it by sitting around in your unhappiness. You still have the ability to do all of the things you did before the storm so now is the time to focus on that. Tell those fears, doubts, and hurt that you are better without them.

I want to you realize that “Better Without You” has more to do with you than with the external things that hurt you. It’s how you feel about the situation. The steps you are taking to get back to happy. The journey you are now taking to find your happy. You are not better because the person who hurt you is now hurting. What if that never happens? The focus should be on you not the storm!

Kelly sings:

I'm not reminiscing
I'm living
In this moment
I am moving
Forward cause the worst is far behind me
I am leaving the resentment
I'm releasing all the tension
Cause it's finally about me

That can’t be any clearer. It’s about what YOU are letting go. How YOU are focusing on YOU. The forward movement YOU are making. The past is behind you. The slate is clean. Make new positive memories. You are not dead so you still have the opportunity to be GREAT! Happiness is still available to you. Step out on Faith and decide that you are going to be happy.

I have made the decision and anyone that wants to hang out with me better be prepared for JOY! I have no desire to be sad. My fear and doubt don’t really bother me that much because they know they will have to work too hard. I deserve to be happy. I worked very hard to get to this place and will work just as hard to stay there.

I hope that today you can begin to release the negative and embrace the happy.

AND remember the amount of happiness you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.

Make it great!

E

Friday, January 27, 2012

I wonder..........

Top of the morning to you!!!!!!!!

Do you ever wonder what your purpose is in life? This use to be the question that topped my “I wonder…” list. I tried many things and nothing ever felt like it fit. I think I finally figured it out. FOR ME purpose is to be happy. Surprised? Probably not. When I am happy, I am able to do the most positive things ever. I give better advice when I’m happy. I create more when I’m happy. My morning e-mails are off the chain when I’m happy. I’m so productive. Also, when I’m happy opportunities pop up from out of nowhere!

Life is pleasing when I am happy. I always have enough when I’m happy. I feel so free when I’m happy. I can think back to not being internally happy. There were situations and things that brought me moments of happiness but my foundation was not in a state of happiness. I can honestly say that I stand on a solid foundation of positivity. Instead of moments of happiness, I have moments of sadness. There will always be something not so great that happens but it’s just a moment. That is life but it’s not allowed to stay and make a home in my life. I enjoy the feeling of peace and calm. I am strong and I will get through it. I am a constant work in progress but I am sooooo much better than I was before. My happy is like a beautiful day in Texas with a nice breeze. That is how I feel almost every day.

I want you to feel the same way. Know that you are great. Release the negative and allow the positivity to rain down on you. Free yourself of worry. Breathe and know that you will find a way. I know that some people are not able to let go and let it flow. Start with something small. You don’t have to Thelma and Louise off the cliff like me but you can find a step and jump off of it….lol

I noticed that when I’m in church that when people raise their hands to praise the Lord they always raise their hands so that when you look at them it looks like a “Y” and I think it’s because if you hold your hands in front you are blocking the blessings being poured on you.

I hope that you are able to find some foundational happy today.

AND remember don’t be the hater in your life keeping you from achieving greatness!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Thursday, January 26, 2012

A river runs through it.............

Relaxing morning to you!

So, I was reading my daily devotional and it basically said to stay calm at all times. You are like a channel and when you allow something to upset you, you block the flow of your blessings. When something not so great would happen to me, my initial reaction was to get upset. Most people do. I would stay that way and worry about how to fix the situation. Now if something happens I may frown and there have actually been a few times that I have laughed. My reaction to most things has changed. I have noticed that when I keep calm the answer comes so much faster and out of nowhere. Today’s message rings so loud and clear. When you allow something or someone to upset you, you’re blocking the answers and all future blessings. That is why it is so important to let things go.

Put it like this….. You are a fancy dinner plate but you haven’t been washed from past dinners. What makes you think that anyone will want to put new food on you? Also, who would want to eat the food from a dirty plate? Wash yourself of the past to prepare for your future.

You are a channel and you must keep things that will block the flow of blessings out of you.

Have a wonderful day!

AND remember don’t cry because it happen, smile because you got through it!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Stop........... think about it!

Good morning.

I really do not have much to say today….. I know that this hard to believe but it’s true. Today I have been thinking about being happy and relaxed. I know that is not a surprise to you. Being happy can sometime take some effort especially depending on what’s happening in your life at the time. Nothing is really happening right now but I like to take some time and to think about all the positive changes in my life. I want to appreciate every day that I have been blessed with. I am grateful for all of the people that have been placed in my life. I learn something from each person. I am thankful for you allowing me to send you my thoughts every morning. Thank you. I am also thankful for all of the obstacles and naysayers in my life. I know that you hate that you made me stronger…..lol. Someone told me that the best revenge of all is being HAPPY. I am not able to fall apart because I was strong before it all happened and even stronger afterwards. *Kisses* Your happiness will straight up drive your haters crazy. It annoys the heck out of people that are not happy themselves. It may not even be that they want to see you unhappy. They just haven’t been able to find their happy so it’s hard for them to be happy for you. So take some time today to focus on your happy. Let the light inside of you shine bright. If you don’t have a light then think about what it would take to make you happy and then focus on that. That will be your light. My God gave me the gift of life so that I may live it to the fullest so, I will be doing him a disservice by not being happy every day. I am happy because that is what I was created to do. If you are having a hard time start off slow…… Begin with a smile.

I hope all of you have a super awesome day!

AND remember if you want to be happy, then do it.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Are you a Janitor?

Magnificent Morning!

Ok so a friend sent me a message that said, “How many keys are you carrying? I notice that the older you get the more keys you have”. I literally laughed aloud because I know that I have keys and I have no idea what they go to but I don’t want to let them go because I may need them later. We all do it. Look on your key ring and there is probably one or more keys that you are keeping for one reason or another. I still have the key from my mother’s house. She is gone and so is the lock to that house. Why am I holding on to it? Do I not have other things that remind me of the love we shared? We don’t only do this with keys but with other material things or just thoughts. We fill ourselves with the positive and negative things that have taken place in our lives. Sometimes you have to let go to make room for future blessings. Did you know that if you have too many keys on your key ring that it will put too much weight on your ignition and mess it up? Holding on the things will burden you down leaving you with the feeling of being overwhelmed. Keep the necessary things in life. Happiness is like a space bag. It doesn’t take up too much room. I never hear people say that they havd too much happiness and it is taking up too much room. Actually, you probably don’t even notice happy. Think about it. When things are running smoothly, you never stop and say, “Dang today is a great day”. You just continue to on your day never realizing that you have had a day filled with no storms or drama. It’s always the storms that you keep. Remember when such and such did such and such? I’m sure you do.

Today take some time to look at the “keys” in your life. Rid yourself of those keys that you remind you of the negative baggage that you have. Dispose of the keys that you have and you don’t even remember where they go. If the key were really important, you would remember. You never look at your keys and think, “Now which one of these unlocks my house?”….lol. Make room for that keys that unlock your happiness. Keep the keys that unlock future blessings.

I hope that you free yourself from the things that are holding you back from being great!

AND remember everyone's got extra baggage; the question is, what are you doing to unpack that trunk and put it away, so you don't have to keep tripping over it?

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Monday, January 23, 2012

Mirrors..............

Super Morning!!!!!!

I’m back on my PC! *so thankful*

So, in my morning thoughts this random quote pops in my mind.

“I am a direct reflection of my surroundings”

This was spoken by Tyrese on his new album. The last track is a poem called “Walk”. I love this poem because it’s like he was in my head when he wrote it. This one statement is a clear indication about how I feel about my circle. The people that are in my life are awesome. They are not perfect but they are awesome. All of the positivity I give out I am refueled by the positivity that they give me. They are encouraging and never letting me settle for less. I am so blessed. I truly feel that you should surround yourself with people that you desire to be like. Everyone in my circle has something about them that I desire to have more of in my life. I’m always striving to be a better person and I would not be able to do that if my circle was a bunch of bums…..lol

These women and men are the cream of the crop. They do not allow their disappointments to stop them from being great! This is inspiring to me because it allows me to see that I am not the only one that has storms and never give up. The storm will not last forever.

Take a moment to think about your circle. Do they encourage you? Do you encourage them? Does the good outweigh the bad a majority of the time? Tyrese said, “You should always expect the things that you accept from people”. So if your circle is not positive do not be surprised when you have something positive happening and they are not happy for you. You have been accepting their negativity all this time so why would they all of a sudden change because you are happy? People that have a tendency to be unhappy will never want to see you happy. Misery loves company and happiness is not good company to them. Check your circle. Make sure that people that you want to be more like surround you. There will be times that you have to let people go. They may be holding you back from your true potential. You want to be the best you and if they are not striving for the same then you may have to move away. I’m not saying that you will not ever be friends again but you should not want people that only desire to stay in one place forever. They are not going to understand the new you and it’s ok. Change can be a really awesome thing. Embrace it! Be better to you. When you are in a space of totally happiness, there will always be someone there to cheer you on. It may be someone that you have not spoken to in a long time. It may be someone you don’t know but they have seen a positive change and just want to comment on it. There will always be someone there. Your circle should be a place of comfort and trust. You should be able to free fall and they catch you.

Create new circles and be great!

I hope that you have the best Monday ever!

AND remember circles have no beginning and no end so whatever is in it just gets recycled……What’s in your circle?

MAKE IT GREAT !


Friday, January 20, 2012

Limitless.......


Great morning!

Hello My name is Erica and I am a PC. O_O!

So this morning I am working on Mac and I feel so lost. I realize that I really do not know much about this machine. I was working my budget and it would not allow me to save it to my hard drive. Now I’m sure it’s due to the fact that I am usually on a PC. Well it asked me to save it using a different name. Ok….. So I do but then it will not let me save it to my hard drive. So me being the person I am I decide that I am going to figure out another way. I save it to the desktop and think that I will just move it over. Well it tells me that it’s a read only file and I will not be able to do that. Ok cool.. I think I will jus t copy it and paste it in…. ummmmm….. I do not know hot to do that because there is no right click. hmmmm ok I will use the Ctrl C & V to copy and paste. Nope.  So, finally I say fine I will just do it when I get home. Now how to I erase this file off of this computer. I can’t. I can put it in the trash but it will still be on this computer. I am not able to delete it permanently in the trash.

I feel so lost. So, as I am typing this I am still formulating a plan to not only get on back on the hard drive but to erase it off of this computer.

The point of all of this is to say never let something stand in your way. There are so many different ways to get something accomplished. Make sure that you have exhausted all of the possible ways before you give up. You never know what you may learn by not giving up. Successful people continue to try even when they know that there is strong possibility that it may not work out. Why?  They try because this time may be different. There may be a new open avenue. Someone new may be introduced to show a new way to reach that goal. You never know what life may bring you. Well Now I am going to find someone that can help me figure out how to use this machine since I do not see a manual anywhere. I will win!

I hope that you are able to break through all barriers today!

AND remember the difference between impossible and possible is your determination!

BTW guess who just learned how to copy and paste? (Pointing at me) :-)

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I was here....................

Great morning!

I am listening to Beyonce’s “I Was Here” and I started thinking how will you leave your mark? How will people remember you? Will they remember you? You do not have to be a Beyonce to leave your mark. You can leave your mark in smallest big ways. I recently was told about this man name Timmie. I was under the assumption that Timmie had goals that he was not able to reach because his life was cut short. I do not know Timmie so I was feeling extra about the message which was that you do not have time to lollygag get started on your dreams now. I already feel that way but that just reinforced the message that you shouldn’t wait. Well another e-mail came through informing me that Timmie was already working on his goals and in fact had helped people already. He was not able to accomplish all of his goals but he left his mark and several people will always remember that he was here. I know I will.

What are you doing to leave your mark? Are you building healthy relationships, raising well-adjusted children, or building an empire? Maybe you are volunteering or helping family members? Maybe you sing or DJ? Are you and accountant or lawyer? You can give so many things.  The opportunities to make a difference are limitless.  The world doesn’t have to know all that you do but for the people that you are helping it can make a major impact. If you do nothing but encourage people to be, better you should take time to make that mark.

You never know that impact you can make on someone’s life. Someone asked me why I am so open about my life. I told them it’s because these are things we all go through and I want people to know that they are strong enough to get through it. Self-worth is very important to me. I believe that is your self-worth is high then all of the other things will fall into place. It allows you to be your first supporter. If you believe then everyone else will also.  Therefore, if I can be an example of happiness then I will do that. It can be like a domino effect where I start it and the person that I encourage can pass it on to the next. This is how you can make a mark on the world. I know that I give my all this will be my mark on the world.

Do not think for one minute that what you give is minor. You will move someone to be better. Don’t be afraid to give that healthy encouraging advice. Don’t give up on that person that wants to change but are afraid to take that step. Keep helping the world to be a better place.

I hope today you take out that pen and begin to make your mark on the world.

AND remember making your mark on the world is hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it. But it's not. It takes patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the way. The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. It's whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere. – Barack Obama

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Get on it!!!!!!!

Good morning,

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
Michael Jordan

I think this is a perfect example of how you are supposed to live life. There will be times that you make mistakes and fall short of a goal. What makes you great is that you keep trying. No one successful has had it perfect the entire way. They took risks and it worked out in the end for them. Donald Trump has declared bankruptcy several times but is still in Forbes. Every time you fall, get up! You have to keep chipping at those dreams. The goal is to accomplish those dreams and you will not be able to do that if you give up.

I tell you all the time to write things down but I truly believe it helps you stay focus on the goal. Hang these goals somewhere where you can see them on a daily basis. It’s about time that you start reaching for great. Take the first step and if you stumble along the way just dust yourself off. If people see you striving to reach a goal they will lend a helping hand. There is someone in your life that wants to see you succeed. If you do not have those people around you then you need a new circle.  If you have already started reaching those goals, WOO HOO! Keep going! I know that you can do it and I am here to help encourage you to reach those goals!

Get started today! Tomorrow is not promised to you.

I hope today is the day you make a plan for greatness.

AND remember hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

MAKE IT GREAT!
E

Monday, January 16, 2012

Breathing.......

Great morning!

First, I want to Happy MLK day and happy belated Birthday to Martin Luther King. His service to this country will never be forgotten and will always be appreciated.

You know when you lose someone you never really lose them. You may have lost them physically but they still live you. They live in your words, actions, and in your heart. Think about when someone mentions someone or something you lost and you have some feelings about it that means that it’s still alive. The mention of Dr. King and all of these good feelings about his work flood our minds and hearts.

For me it’s my mother. She has been gone for almost 10 years now but they way that I feel and think it’s as if it just happened the other day. She will always live within me. I’m funny like her. My attitude can be vicious like her…lol. I love hard as she does. Even some of the things I do reflect her actions. She will always be with me and for that, I’m grateful.

We do not cry For Dr. King’s death we celebrate his life. We reflect on all of the good work that he put in to make things better for us. That’s how I feel about my mother. She worked had so that I could have better.

With all of this being said, do not weep long about things you have lost. Celebrate what time you had and how the future is going to be brighter. This goes for people and situations. Those people are now in a better place. They are in a place where they can find peace. No need to fall apart down here when they are at peace up there. Use their love to guide you to make it better for you and the next generation. As far as lost situations, be grateful that you are not in a negative situation anymore. Think about the positive future that’s ahead waiting for you. If you have missed out on a great situation use it as a learning tool to better yourself and another situation will present itself.

Keep moving forward. Appreciate what you have at this very moment. Absorb the feel good moment of being alive. Take a deep breath and smile knowing that you are still winning. Enjoy your morning tea, coffee, o.j., or apple juice and take a moment to just relax. The people before you have worked hard so that you will be able to enjoy your life. Smile.

Today I hope you are able to take a break just to sit and be thankful for your life right now.

AND remember give thanks for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Friday, January 13, 2012

Don't waste it.......

AWESOME MORNING!

Sunshine and Rainbows to you!

Take a minute to just sit and enjoy the fact that you are alive. Take a deep breath and realize how blessed you are at this very moment. No matter what is going on you are alive and that means that you are still winning. You have been given another opportunity to be greater than you were yesterday. So take advantage of this and be better than great. Be SUPER AWESOME!

Smile a little more today. You have a smile so use it. Love a little more today. You have a heart that loves to be loved. Call someone and tell him or her that you care or love them. The best phone calls are the ones where someone just called to say something nice or just to check on you. It makes them feel a little more loved. AND like a boomerang, it makes you feel good also because the person reciprocates that love.

Every day I tell you to MAKE IT GREAT because you have the power to make it great. Sometimes you have to put aside pride and ego and make it great. Let’s make life great. I mean why not? Don’t you want to be happy? I know I do so I take time to enjoy the moment. I want to be able to say every day of my life was great! Even on my sad days, I remind myself of all my blessings. I work very hard to stay on the happy trail. I love being happy so when obstacles arise I make a plan and implement it so that I can get back to happy. Address issues so that you can have some piece of mind. Let go of past hurts. You will not be able to be happy if the past is taking up too much room. Clean out your cluttered mind and prepare room for happy.

I hope you take time today to stop and smell the flowers…..

AND remember to be upset over what you don’t have, is a waste of what you do have.

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Thursday, January 12, 2012

The Journey...........

Fantastic Morning!!!!!!!

This morning as I was saying my morning prayers I was thinking about believing in something. Then all of a sudden, Harriet Tubman pops in my head. Do you know that she personally freed over 70 slaves. Once she freed herself, she had the belief that she could free her family also. It’s not like she was a big strong woman. She was only about 5 feet tall. She believed that she could do it and that’s what makes the difference. I know that she was scared but did it over and over again anyway. Oh and don’t think she was perfect. She ran away once but came back. I’m sure she suffered for that one. That didn’t stop her from the very thing she desired… Freedom. Saturday evenings was the time that she began her journeys to freedom. With Harriet, once you made the decision there was no turning back. She had a plan and she knew that if they were going to make it to freedom they had to be focused. Harriet is no different from us. She was not superhuman. She didn’t have superior knowledge. She didn’t have GPS. She had Faith and a plan.

This is what I want you to understand. You can be in the worst conditions but there is always a way out. Have Faith. I have already told you that you don’t need a lot of Faith to get started. Having just a little faith can move mountains. A little faith can encourage you to take that first step towards freedom. It may be scary but if freedom is what you want then you have to move your feet. You see that other people have it around you so why do you think that you are not able to have the same? I’m not just talking about physical freedom either. You may need freedom from negative thoughts. You may be in the midst of a storm and your thoughts are not helping you. Start to believe in what you want. Once you get your mind right everything else will follow. When your mind is in the right place, your actions are different. You are not doing things half way. Believing gives you confidence and with that, you go full throttle until it is done.

Make up your mind. Do you want to be a victim or a VICTOR? It’s up to you. Harriet had help on the way to freedom and so will you but you have to make up your mind and take that first step.

Today is Saturday evening so what are you going to do?

And remember some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.

MAKE IT GREAT! 

E

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Oops............

Fabulous Morning!

Have you ever called someone and they told you that you have the wrong number? When you ended the call, did you recheck the number you dialed? Then maybe you called someone else to get the right number or maybe you sent an e-mail to the person to get the right number. You do all of this so you will not make the mistake of calling that number again.

Well that’s life. You will make MISTAKES. There is a lesson to be learned so that you will not make that mistake again. The problem with us is that when we make a mistake we not only hold on to it we beat ourselves up over it. I mean we really can give it to ourselves when it comes to dishing out the blame. When you make a mistake, you are not supposed to debase yourself. Just don’t do it again. It’s as simple as that.

Ok so I know this person (We will call them “T”) and they were in this horrible relationship (With “Q”). T attempted to do everything to make Q happy. T was giving all that they had to Q. Q left and they broke up. T didn’t understand how Q didn’t appreciate all that they did for them. How could they just hurt them and move on. Well T fell into a deep depression and felt like they were nothing. T felt they gave it all up and Q took it and left.

T made a mistake. They gave all they had without verifying if it was the correct thing to do. IT WAS A MISTAKE! YOU ARE STILL ALIVE (unless you are reading this in heaven)! It doesn’t mean that you are nothing. It means that they have to let go and get up again. Even in the best relationships, you have to take a step back to make sure that you are doing the right thing. When you feel like you have given all that you got replenish your self-love.  Be a little selfish to make sure that you are ok.

The thing is that when your self-worth is high no matter what happens you know that you will be ok. There is something in you that’s says “Don’t worry, It was a mistake. I got you.” You didn’t see that the person that you are giving you all to is not able to do the same for you and that is something that they are going to have to work on. That is not for you to worry about. Make sure that you are good! How can you take care of someone else when you are not ok? How can you be a foundation for kids, husbands, boyfriends, wives, girlfriends or even your job when there is a crack? This crack can be past hurts, disappointments, even how you grew up. Do not let your past dictate your future. I told you yesterday that you have the control now so there is no need to hold on to the past. Keep the lessons and keep it moving.

Yes this not just for relationships. If you are not good then your job will suffer also. Mistakes happen when you are not focused. You apologize and work hard so that you will not make the same mistake again. We are human so there is no need to beat yourself up. Just make sure that you don’t do it again. You are smarter now. Paying attention to what’s going on around you is very important. That is what mistakes are supposed to do. You figure out what happened and then change it. If a situation has you feeling depleted then you have stayed for too long! You are not nothing you were just mistaken….

This morning I read, “Only scarred lives can really save….”. WHAT????? OMG if that didn’t hit the nail on the head. There is no better way for you to learn than through your own mistakes. It is not guaranteed that you will get it right the first time every time. I have told you the battle that Fondant and I had. Well I will say it again. Fondant won the fight but I won the war! You can save you and others because you made the mistake and learned from it. Fill yourself up with the lessons of your mistakes. Create a better you. Find the beauty in every scar. Here, let me help you. You are alive and get the chance to be better. The pain will fade and you need to build a better you! If you have children look at the beauty in them. They love you unconditionally. Your love tank may be on empty but they are not able see that and actually are able to fill you back up. How about you still have the ability to love? How? You love your kids, family, and friends right? Well submerge yourself in that love. It’s easy and available. You will be able to give your all to them and like a boomerang it will come back to you.

Do not spend too much time dwelling over your mistakes. Just discover where you went wrong and then go right!

Make today the day that you realize it was just a mistake and it will be fixed!

AND remember don’t ever think you’re nothing because somewhere along the line, there’s going to be someone who thinks you’re everything!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Who wants some happy?????​?????

Tremendous Morning!!!!!!!

Boy….. I have to tell you I woke up this morning and as my good friend Sabrena would say, with a boot in mouth. There are several things that are going on at this time that are not so great. My attitude was very poor this morning. My smile just didn’t have that sparkle. Well this morning on the way to work I was talking to the Big Homie and I told Him that I’m not going to let any of this stop no show. My prayers had a little more confidence in them. I said that I was going to keep praying and planning until it got better but I was going to start with my attitude. I decided that I’m going to be happy in the midst of it all. I may not be where I want to be but I will be happy with where I am. I know that things will not always be this way and I need to plan for my future. I am going to plan for happier times. My doubt and fear have no control here. I give them E for effort for trying because they have been on me but I’m not weakling. I do not believe anything they have to say because they are quitters and I am not. I’m telling you by the time I made it to work my whole disposition had changed. I have not been able to stop smiling. I’m no fool to think that I will always be happy but that doesn’t mean that I will not strive for happiness. I have found that when I’m at my happiest is when things just fall into place so why not start with that? It’s up to me how I am going to feel. There are times (like when I woke up) that your emotions will be so strong. You feel like “Gingersnaps and Cornbread I’m sad!”. There is a feeling of loss. You are not quite sure what to do. Well I’m here to tell you need to talk it out. Get in your car drive somewhere or go to your favorite space and talk it out. Talk about what you don’t want to do. Then talk about what you do want to do and how you want it to be. Finally, you have to make a decision on what to do and then do it. Remember positive actions will create positive reactions. You want to be happy so, doing things that are negative will get you no closer to your goals than before. I decided I’m going to be better than I was yesterday and the day before. The reason is simply because I want to be better and I know that I can do it.

We have to power to change any situation. You have options. You can let situations control you or you can take control. It’s up to you. I Walk by Faith and Not By Sight so I know that what I see happening right now is not how my life will always be. This is a moment. I will not let my past dictate my future. Past hurts and storms are in the past. I have taken steps to change my future so I have Faith that it will be better. I mean my life has already changed for the positive so why would I not believe that it could get even better? I took that first step and POW so many doors opened for me.

GET FOCUSED PEOPLE!!!!!! Do not expect your storm to decide it wants to be a rainbow. That’s not how storms work. They are they to rain down on you and put you in a not so great mood. You have to be the one to decide enough is enough. Tell your hurt that you have had enough. Stand strong and realize that with all that you have gone through or are going through YOU ARE STILL STANDING! That means that you have the strength to pull yourself up. I know that you know someone that seems like they were able to move past their hurt with no problems. You know why it seems that way? The reason they were able to move on because they decided to move on. They decided that whatever they went through was not worth staying in an unhappy state for. Being sad about it will not make it better. They also went to see someone to help guide them through their emotions. There is someone there to help you let go of that baggage. The first step is up to you. You can’t be helped if you don’t want to be helped. STOP being hard headed and make some changes in your life.

As far as I know you only get one life so don’t mess it up wasting time on negativity. LET’S GET IT!

Make today the first day of turning over a new leaf.

AND remember in order to succeed all you have to do is get up one more time than you fall down.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Monday, January 9, 2012

In my feelings........

Marvelous Morning!

I was thinking this morning that I have a hard to settling. I will try new or different ways but I know what I want and I will not settle for anything else. This especially true when it comes to my heart. I actually think I may settle when it comes to other things but my heart is super important. I think that’s why I have a hard time with people who will go hard in all aspects of their life but are not so secure when it comes to their hearts. I am not perfect by any means and I make mistakes like the next person. What I have come to learn is that my heart belongs to me. I make all of the decisions when it comes to it. Other people can have an effect on it but it’s up to me to allow that person to handle it. This is why communication is so important to me. I can make the best decisions when I have the proper information. Oh and don’t just think because you told me something that I’m going to run with it. If you have a good track record of doing what you say you are going to do then I will believe you but it’s all about follow through. I know what love it. My family illustrates true love all the time. I have never felt in my life like “Maybe they don’t love me”. With my family, I never feel like I have to guard myself. There are no conditions to their love. I do not see them all the time either but when we get together it’s like there has never been any space in between us. I grew up with lots of hugs and kisses. There were times (and still are) where we will just sit all together and talk. Doesn’t have to be anything important just sit in the same room and be close. I’m sure that’s why my love language is Quality Time. I am soooooo blessed.

With this being said why would I allow anyone to handle something so precious? I have been in love before. I mean head over heels in love. It felt really good but it didn’t last. I learned a lot but the best lesson was that just because that wasn’t love doesn’t mean that love and I will never meet again. In every family, you may not agree with what someone is doing but you still love him or her. You may not like them but you still love them. That’s how you should feel if a situation doesn’t work out. It is not the be all end all for love. You are probably the reason that love has a hard time finding you again. You place all of the roadblocks attempting not to get hurt but you are blocking out the blessings that have you name on them. I’m not saying to Thelma and Louise into love. I’m saying to let go of past hurts and pay attention. Take some time to see if this person can love you the way you need to be love and you can love them the way they need to be love.

Once you and love meet again don’t think for a second that you can rest. You have to work even harder at maintaining that love. It’s the hardest best job you can ever have but if it’s good it’s worth it. If you are in love and that person loves you back do not be timid with your love. It’s like how can you experience the joy of swimming if you only stick your toe in the water? When it comes to love, you have to be comfortable. Share your feelings with your loved one. Tell them about the things they do that make you smile. It encourages them to continue to do it. I mean you like feeling appreciated at your job well, that’s how you should be at home.

Love is a wonderful thing and to be able to appreciate it in others you have to be able to appreciate the love you already have. I want to be love the way that my family loves me and I think I’m worth it. What about you?

I hope that you have a LOVEly day!

AND remember when you come across the one…… Love without fear or restrictions. Trust without wondering. Want without demand. Accept them as they are and if given the chance, they will live for the time being proving to you, you made the right decision.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!!!
E

Friday, January 6, 2012

Back on track!

Fabulous Friday!!!!!!

Today I’m feeling so good……. I have been sick and it’s been a little difficult to be my usual happy self. Being sick just sucks up all of your little energy and it’s just been a battle to get back on track. I can tell that I’m closer because today I have more energy and happier than I have been in the last couple of days. There is a peace that I feel and I’m so grateful for it.

Well we have reached another Friday and for that, you should feel blessed. If you are not feeling your best this morning please take notice of the following reasons you should be happy……

-You should be happy that you woke up. Every day is not promised to you so be grateful that you have been given another day. Appreciation should start when your eyes pop open. Know that you can conquer whatever comes your way because you have the ability to make it happen. Don’t wait until you almost lose something in order to get your feet moving…..

-Be Happy that you can still love and laugh. Many people block out their happy attempting to avoid the pain. Open yourself up for all the happy and let it outweigh and crush you unhappy. You are not hurting anyone but yourself closing yourself up from the world. Trust that man or woman is not losing sleep because you are sad. They have moved on and so should you. If you can be sad then you have the ability to be happy. If you can hate then you can love. Know that pain is just a moment in time. It only becomes a lifestyle if you make it that way. Think about it do you remember that last paper cut or burn? No you don’t because it’s in the past.... where all hurt belongs.

-Being in your right mind is an awesome reason to be happy. They say that a mind is a terrible thing to waste and what you don’t use you will lose. Get that mind working on ways to better your life. You have to be in control of you. Do not let your feelings run the show. The need guidance and you will have to do that. Allowing your feelings to direct your life is like letting a 1st grader make financial decisions for you. There will be times that your feelings just do not make sense. They do not always live in reality. You have to work as a team in order for things to work properly.

-Knowing not all “Goodbyes” are bad. Sometimes a “Bye” is good. There are certain things that you do not need in your life. Not just negative people that you do not need, but you also do not need negative feelings and thoughts. It may have been placed in your life to teach you something but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is supposed to be there forever. This is when being in your right mind really comes in handy. No need to fall apart behind a goodbye. Look at the big picture and find out the true lesson. Figure out what happened and use it to make you better. The goodbye really is not the hard part. The hard part is you letting go. Do not hold on to it. Take the lesson and put the situation in the past. You becoming better makes any bye good!

-Identify the superhero inside of you. You can do anything you put your mind in gear to do. The first step of any plan is hard but once you take that step it encourages you to go a little further. Villains are constantly telling superheroes how they are going to perish. Have you seen one not save the day yet…… *waiting* NO because they know who they are and they always will find a way. YOU ARE AWESOME! Do not let other’s opinion tell you who you are. You knew who you were before you met these people so you should know who you are now! Show all doubters and haters that you were a cape that waves in the wind and have a ray of light behind you that shows everyone that you are INCREDIBLE!!!!!

These are just a few reasons that you should be happy every day. If you need more, I will be more than happy to tell you why you are awesome.

I hope the superhero pops out of you today!

AND remember if someone or something is strong enough to bring you down, show them you are strong enough to get up!

MAKE IT GREAT!
E

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Don't talk about it..... Be about it!

Super Morning!

Recently I have talk to people and they are in situations that have them in a place of constant unhappiness. Because I have been there before I feel for them. I want them to be happy so I listen and listen to them. I never turn them away or not want to hear them out or let them vent. I do not remember much about my unhappy times but sometimes when people speak about their unhappiness this feeling creeps over me and I can feel the despair that they are feeling. It hurts. I attempt to give them some encouraging words to help soothe the pain. What I want them to know is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Things can and will change. That’s life. Will life have a positive change? Well that’s completely up to that person. They have to make some decisions and plans. See someone (Nancy) to get some insight into the situation.

After a while, when no plans have been made and no steps have been taken I tend to feel like this is how you want to feel. I know despair. I know the feeling of “I don’t know what else to do”. Well let me tell you the internet is full of ideas. Try something. Move your feet. Nothing is going to get better by you just venting about it. Faith without works is dead so DO SOMETHING!!!!!!! I stepped out on FAITH and I have yet to fall…..

My friends know that they are not able to come to me too many times without some sort of plan or action that has taken place. They know that I will snap and say something like “Well, you must not be too unhappy because you haven’t made any changes”. I’m not trying to hurt their feelings I’m attempting to shake them up. I do not cosign on unproductive ideas and sad thoughts. Let’s fix it! The word "can’t" is not allowed in conversations with me. You took the steps to get in the situation so take some steps to make a change! I’ll give you some ideas today but it’s up to you to use them.

Step 1. Write (YES WRITE) out exactly how you feel. Do not attempt to make it look nice and organized. Write it down just the way it’s running across your mind. When you get things off your chest, you make room in your mind for new ideas. Your mind is like a flushing toilet. Your feelings, thoughts, and worries just swirl around and around with no rhyme or reason. Well flush that stuff out so that there is a clear mind.

Step 2. Write down how you want things to be. How do you want your life to be? What will make you happy? Do not think about any other person just how YOU want it to be. You will not be able to create success if you do now know what you want.

Step 3. What do you think it will take to make that happen? This is when you need to brainstorm. Think about ways that YOU can change to get a different reaction from your situation. Think of positive ways that you can implement into your situation to give it a new look. Now let’s not pretend as if you are Polly or Paul Perfect because you are not. Start the change with you and it will change others. If your positivity doesn’t change your situation you will find that, it may be time to make some moves. First, try to fix what you have. Remember do not let someone’s actions dictate your reactions. YOU ARE IN CONTROL NOW!

Step 4. Make some goals! My personal goal is to be happy all day, every day. This is not easy but I work on it because this is how I want to feel. So post your goals where you can see them every day.  If it’s nothing but being on time every day for a week to show yourself that you can do it. You need to build up some happiness. Get in another frame of mind. When you take the time to change how you process situations you will be better equipped to handle them.

If you work on you first then you can work on the things around you. You are the strongest when you are at your weakest point. Right now, you are strong enough to hold on in your situation so, you will be strong enough to pull yourself up. Once you are up things will be easier to handle. Don’t be the hater in your life. You may not be able to change someone else but you can change you. Don’t talk about what is not happening, talk about the steps you are taking to make it happen.

You can do it!

Make today the first day of you new life!

AND remember fear will always rent the space it occupies, but FAITH will own the building and any room it steps in!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Just a little bit........

Luminous Morning……….

How strong is your Faith?

My Lord said that if you have Faith as small as a mustard seed you can tell a sycamore tree to uproot itself and go plant in the sea and it will obey you. So, with this being said what are you telling to move in your life? If you only need a little faith to make things happen, why do we have so much trouble? I will tell you why. Faith is not something you can see. It’s not tangible. You will never see a commercial that is selling Faith. Faith is like air. You know it’s there but you are not able to touch it. Faith is knowing even when there is nothing in that moment confirming its truth. You just need a little to alter your life. Think about the things you want in your life. Do you know that if you want those things you need faith to make it happen? When you KNOW something is going to happen it usually does. Why does it happen? You made it happen. You didn’t do anything to stop it. You knew it so it happened. I entered a contest one day and when I got back to the office, I kept telling everyone that I was going to win some tickets. I just knew that I was going to win. Now there was a little doubt because it was a drawing but I just kept speaking the words that I had already won. Do you know that when they sent the e-mail that afternoon I won the tickets…..LOL! It just reinforced that when you believe, things happen.

You are like a vessel and what you pour into it defines who you are and what will happen to you. When you pour Faith into your vessel, you begin to shine with positivity. After a while, you overflow with positive words and thoughts creating beautiful situations in your life. This kind of activity does not leave room for negative things. They do not fit and you end up squeezing that out of your life. Your good outweighs your bad. Doubt is overpowered by your positive beliefs. When your bad outweighs your good and more doubt is poured into your vessel it is like breeding bacteria. Your doubt grows into fear and then it chokes the life out of any dream or accomplishment you desire. With doubt, you tend to focus on things that inspire negativity. You focus on past failures. You see other people’s misery as a reason not to go forth with your dream. You allow negative words to reinforce your doubt and fear. We are human so there will always be a piece of doubt. What you have to do is to stand up to that doubt and tell it to move. Tell it that it doesn’t belong there and that you are going to show it that it’s a liar.

You just need a little Faith to tell that doubt to move. You don’t have to be 100% sure but you do have to take that first step. Set the goal. Then take the first step towards that goal. Know that you CAN do anything when you fill that vessel with Faith. KNOW that what you want you can have if you work for it. You will always have to work to keep doubt and fear out of your path. You have to stand up for your dreams and aspirations. Doubt and fear have no intentions of getting you to any goal. That is not how they work. There is nothing for you hanging out with doubt and fear. You are just postponing your success. When doubt comes and stands in your way, tell it to move you have things to do. Tell all of your obstacles to move you have somewhere to be and then keep moving.

Success is waiting on you.

Make today the day that you take a stand.

AND remember Faith is the bird that feels the light when the dawn is still dark.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E