I ain't afraid of no ghost!

Good morning,

Yesterday I was reading a blog that I subscribe to and the topic was “5 Things that Scare the Hell OUT of EVERY MAN…ever.” Now nothing that was said here was really new until I got to the last point. The last apprehension that men seem to have is the fear of “Relationship/Marriage. I know you are thinking, “Really? Really Erica? It wasn’t so much the actual fear that I found interesting it was the fear of failure in relationships/marriage that peaked my interest. I always thought if there were a fear, it would be not being able to give up all of the women.  This fear of failure was sort of a surprise. I began to think…. Why do we look at certain things and think about failing before we even start? Is it because we see others and think that it can happen to us? Well people get into car wrecks but that doesn’t stop us from hopping in to go where we want. People get hurt in ski accidents but there are people that go to Aspen every year. Houses burn down but people continuously feel a strong desire to buy them. Anything that is “bad” can happen but you are inviting that in by thinking/meditating on it before it even happens. Terri Cole makes an excellent point by saying, “Fear of failure has one thing in common with all of our other fears: It is a feeling and not a fact”. Honestly, fears are something that “COULD” happen. It hasn’t happened yet. Even if it has happened before it doesn’t mean it will happen again. Hopefully a lesson was learned and now you will be better prepared the second time around. Also, STOP looking at other people. They are not you. The situation will not play out the same so you really can’t use their situation as step-by-step guide.  Get out of your feelings, prepare best you can, pay attention, and go after what you want. Fear may keep you safe from “potential” hurt but it will never allow you to be completely happy.

I hope that we all take the initiative to step out and reach for the things that we truly desire.

AND remember fear ends where Faith begins……

MAKE IR GREAT!

E