Growing Pains

Magnificent Monday!

I was reading my daily devotional this morning and it said, “Everything alive grows. Anything that is not growing is dying”. I absolutely agree with this statement. As people, we grow and learn new things every day. When not so great things happen, we are supposed to learn from that situation. Paying attention to what’s going on around you is very important. What did you do? What happened? What could you have done differently? Sometimes there is not that much to learn but you should be able to learn something in every situation. Then you take that information and apply it to your life. This will enhance you as a person. You will be better for the next time. I have learned that when you separate from someone there is no need to dwell about how they need to change this and that. You will not be able to do it for them so don’t worry about it. Now if they ask help but you really need to focus on making you a better person.

Another way to grow is to change your perception and attitude about things. I have a friend that use to say “Men ain’t sh*t” (excuse my language) but she still desired to be in a relationship. I always felt like she would never get that healthy relationship because she stopped growing and began hoarding these negative feelings. Apply the lesson not the feelings to your life. You shouldn’t punish all people for the mistake of one or two. If you find that to be a common occurrence in your life then you need to take a look at you. Again, what are you doing that causes this to keep happening to you? Change your attitude. Change how you approach things that happen. Instead of saying mean things about men (or women), you should be saying, “Well I’m going to work on not letting that happen again”.

You are not the only person in the world that not so great things happen to so stop with the pity party. Oh whoa is you….. Stop (Pineapples)! There is nothing wrong with grieving for something lost but being in a state of depression for too long will get comfortable and you’ll miss out on life. Get focused on what you want and then make it happen. If you don’t get that, job then look for another one. If he or she is not the right person then move on to something better. If someone upsets you address it and move on. Don’t hold on. You are still living so therefore you must continue to grow.

Put it like this…….if you stop growing will be outdated like poodle skirts, flip phones, and hammer pants. No one will be checking for you. Upgrade yourself!

I hope that you have a wonderful Monday.

AND remember letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care. It’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself.

MAKE IT GREAT

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