Let bygones be bygones........

Good morning,

Yesterday I was speaking with someone about “forgiveness”. This seems to be a hard thing for most people to do. I know I’ve struggled with it. I can forgive some people with such ease and others not so much. The discussion we were having brought up the question of how do you forgive someone when you know that they haven’t changed. I thought well there are times that you will have to forgive yourself. You will have to forgive yourself for holding on to something that doesn’t even matter. There will be times that you are angry with someone and to him or her it means nothing. They are not sitting and thinking about how you are upset with them. The mention of your name doesn’t cause any reaction. They are not losing any sleep because you are mad at them.  I will keep saying it, “You can’t change people but you can change yourself”. Sometimes you will have to forgive you for holding on to resentment. Forgive yourself for wasting time and emotion on someone that is not worth it. Do you know that most of the time people hold on to things that are not even relevant. I mean someone said something about you to get someone to think differently about you and in the end, it didn’t work. You are still dating, friends, married, etc to the very person that that heard all of the lies. So, why are you still holding on? Why are you still mad? Their plans didn’t work. You are still in the winner’s circle. Once you forgive and let go you will find that in that process you also forgave the person that hurt you. It will not matter if they haven’t changed. It will not matter if they are still holding on to the negative. You have let go of it all. The thing about forgiveness is that no matter what someone has said or done this is your opportunity to shine. If someone has said something about you then you have to be confident enough to outshine anything they say. We are created for greatness so stop getting in your way by holding on to foolishness. I don’t worry about what people say about me. If I happen to find out it will initially hurt, not so much because of what you said but because it damages our relationship. The consistency of being me will override any untruth someone has said about me. I learned a long time ago that if someone is willing to believe what someone else says about you then they really do not have a relationship with you in the first place. Take this time to forgive the people that have hurt you. I’m not saying be bestie’s with them. I’m saying let go of what they did. They can’t hurt you anymore because you forgave…..You didn’t forget. Be confident to know that no lie can make you when you are already complete.

Forgive yourself for harboring resentment and forgive your haters. They don’t hate you….it’s just misguided admiration.

AND remember a funny thing about forgiveness is that by letting go of something outside ourselves we are able to find peace within ourselves.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E