Who wants some happy?????​?????

Tremendous Morning!!!!!!!

Boy….. I have to tell you I woke up this morning and as my good friend Sabrena would say, with a boot in mouth. There are several things that are going on at this time that are not so great. My attitude was very poor this morning. My smile just didn’t have that sparkle. Well this morning on the way to work I was talking to the Big Homie and I told Him that I’m not going to let any of this stop no show. My prayers had a little more confidence in them. I said that I was going to keep praying and planning until it got better but I was going to start with my attitude. I decided that I’m going to be happy in the midst of it all. I may not be where I want to be but I will be happy with where I am. I know that things will not always be this way and I need to plan for my future. I am going to plan for happier times. My doubt and fear have no control here. I give them E for effort for trying because they have been on me but I’m not weakling. I do not believe anything they have to say because they are quitters and I am not. I’m telling you by the time I made it to work my whole disposition had changed. I have not been able to stop smiling. I’m no fool to think that I will always be happy but that doesn’t mean that I will not strive for happiness. I have found that when I’m at my happiest is when things just fall into place so why not start with that? It’s up to me how I am going to feel. There are times (like when I woke up) that your emotions will be so strong. You feel like “Gingersnaps and Cornbread I’m sad!”. There is a feeling of loss. You are not quite sure what to do. Well I’m here to tell you need to talk it out. Get in your car drive somewhere or go to your favorite space and talk it out. Talk about what you don’t want to do. Then talk about what you do want to do and how you want it to be. Finally, you have to make a decision on what to do and then do it. Remember positive actions will create positive reactions. You want to be happy so, doing things that are negative will get you no closer to your goals than before. I decided I’m going to be better than I was yesterday and the day before. The reason is simply because I want to be better and I know that I can do it.

We have to power to change any situation. You have options. You can let situations control you or you can take control. It’s up to you. I Walk by Faith and Not By Sight so I know that what I see happening right now is not how my life will always be. This is a moment. I will not let my past dictate my future. Past hurts and storms are in the past. I have taken steps to change my future so I have Faith that it will be better. I mean my life has already changed for the positive so why would I not believe that it could get even better? I took that first step and POW so many doors opened for me.

GET FOCUSED PEOPLE!!!!!! Do not expect your storm to decide it wants to be a rainbow. That’s not how storms work. They are they to rain down on you and put you in a not so great mood. You have to be the one to decide enough is enough. Tell your hurt that you have had enough. Stand strong and realize that with all that you have gone through or are going through YOU ARE STILL STANDING! That means that you have the strength to pull yourself up. I know that you know someone that seems like they were able to move past their hurt with no problems. You know why it seems that way? The reason they were able to move on because they decided to move on. They decided that whatever they went through was not worth staying in an unhappy state for. Being sad about it will not make it better. They also went to see someone to help guide them through their emotions. There is someone there to help you let go of that baggage. The first step is up to you. You can’t be helped if you don’t want to be helped. STOP being hard headed and make some changes in your life.

As far as I know you only get one life so don’t mess it up wasting time on negativity. LET’S GET IT!

Make today the first day of turning over a new leaf.

AND remember in order to succeed all you have to do is get up one more time than you fall down.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

In my feelings........

Marvelous Morning!

I was thinking this morning that I have a hard to settling. I will try new or different ways but I know what I want and I will not settle for anything else. This especially true when it comes to my heart. I actually think I may settle when it comes to other things but my heart is super important. I think that’s why I have a hard time with people who will go hard in all aspects of their life but are not so secure when it comes to their hearts. I am not perfect by any means and I make mistakes like the next person. What I have come to learn is that my heart belongs to me. I make all of the decisions when it comes to it. Other people can have an effect on it but it’s up to me to allow that person to handle it. This is why communication is so important to me. I can make the best decisions when I have the proper information. Oh and don’t just think because you told me something that I’m going to run with it. If you have a good track record of doing what you say you are going to do then I will believe you but it’s all about follow through. I know what love it. My family illustrates true love all the time. I have never felt in my life like “Maybe they don’t love me”. With my family, I never feel like I have to guard myself. There are no conditions to their love. I do not see them all the time either but when we get together it’s like there has never been any space in between us. I grew up with lots of hugs and kisses. There were times (and still are) where we will just sit all together and talk. Doesn’t have to be anything important just sit in the same room and be close. I’m sure that’s why my love language is Quality Time. I am soooooo blessed.

With this being said why would I allow anyone to handle something so precious? I have been in love before. I mean head over heels in love. It felt really good but it didn’t last. I learned a lot but the best lesson was that just because that wasn’t love doesn’t mean that love and I will never meet again. In every family, you may not agree with what someone is doing but you still love him or her. You may not like them but you still love them. That’s how you should feel if a situation doesn’t work out. It is not the be all end all for love. You are probably the reason that love has a hard time finding you again. You place all of the roadblocks attempting not to get hurt but you are blocking out the blessings that have you name on them. I’m not saying to Thelma and Louise into love. I’m saying to let go of past hurts and pay attention. Take some time to see if this person can love you the way you need to be love and you can love them the way they need to be love.

Once you and love meet again don’t think for a second that you can rest. You have to work even harder at maintaining that love. It’s the hardest best job you can ever have but if it’s good it’s worth it. If you are in love and that person loves you back do not be timid with your love. It’s like how can you experience the joy of swimming if you only stick your toe in the water? When it comes to love, you have to be comfortable. Share your feelings with your loved one. Tell them about the things they do that make you smile. It encourages them to continue to do it. I mean you like feeling appreciated at your job well, that’s how you should be at home.

Love is a wonderful thing and to be able to appreciate it in others you have to be able to appreciate the love you already have. I want to be love the way that my family loves me and I think I’m worth it. What about you?

I hope that you have a LOVEly day!

AND remember when you come across the one…… Love without fear or restrictions. Trust without wondering. Want without demand. Accept them as they are and if given the chance, they will live for the time being proving to you, you made the right decision.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!!!

E

Back on track!

Fabulous Friday!!!!!!

Today I’m feeling so good……. I have been sick and it’s been a little difficult to be my usual happy self. Being sick just sucks up all of your little energy and it’s just been a battle to get back on track. I can tell that I’m closer because today I have more energy and happier than I have been in the last couple of days. There is a peace that I feel and I’m so grateful for it.

Well we have reached another Friday and for that, you should feel blessed. If you are not feeling your best this morning please take notice of the following reasons you should be happy……

-You should be happy that you woke up. Every day is not promised to you so be grateful that you have been given another day. Appreciation should start when your eyes pop open. Know that you can conquer whatever comes your way because you have the ability to make it happen. Don’t wait until you almost lose something in order to get your feet moving…..

-Be Happy that you can still love and laugh. Many people block out their happy attempting to avoid the pain. Open yourself up for all the happy and let it outweigh and crush you unhappy. You are not hurting anyone but yourself closing yourself up from the world. Trust that man or woman is not losing sleep because you are sad. They have moved on and so should you. If you can be sad then you have the ability to be happy. If you can hate then you can love. Know that pain is just a moment in time. It only becomes a lifestyle if you make it that way. Think about it do you remember that last paper cut or burn? No you don’t because it’s in the past.... where all hurt belongs.

-Being in your right mind is an awesome reason to be happy. They say that a mind is a terrible thing to waste and what you don’t use you will lose. Get that mind working on ways to better your life. You have to be in control of you. Do not let your feelings run the show. The need guidance and you will have to do that. Allowing your feelings to direct your life is like letting a 1^st grader make financial decisions for you. There will be times that your feelings just do not make sense. They do not always live in reality. You have to work as a team in order for things to work properly.

-Knowing not all “Goodbyes” are bad. Sometimes a “Bye” is good. There are certain things that you do not need in your life. Not just negative people that you do not need, but you also do not need negative feelings and thoughts. It may have been placed in your life to teach you something but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is supposed to be there forever. This is when being in your right mind really comes in handy. No need to fall apart behind a goodbye. Look at the big picture and find out the true lesson. Figure out what happened and use it to make you better. The goodbye really is not the hard part. The hard part is you letting go. Do not hold on to it. Take the lesson and put the situation in the past. You becoming better makes any bye good!

-Identify the superhero inside of you. You can do anything you put your mind in gear to do. The first step of any plan is hard but once you take that step it encourages you to go a little further. Villains are constantly telling superheroes how they are going to perish. Have you seen one not save the day yet…… *waiting* NO because they know who they are and they always will find a way. YOU ARE AWESOME! Do not let other’s opinion tell you who you are. You knew who you were before you met these people so you should know who you are now! Show all doubters and haters that you were a cape that waves in the wind and have a ray of light behind you that shows everyone that you are INCREDIBLE!!!!!

These are just a few reasons that you should be happy every day. If you need more, I will be more than happy to tell you why you are awesome.

I hope the superhero pops out of you today!

AND remember if someone or something is strong enough to bring you down, show them you are strong enough to get up!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Don't talk about it..... Be about it!

Super Morning!

Recently I have talk to people and they are in situations that have them in a place of constant unhappiness. Because I have been there before I feel for them. I want them to be happy so I listen and listen to them. I never turn them away or not want to hear them out or let them vent. I do not remember much about my unhappy times but sometimes when people speak about their unhappiness this feeling creeps over me and I can feel the despair that they are feeling. It hurts. I attempt to give them some encouraging words to help soothe the pain. What I want them to know is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Things can and will change. That’s life. Will life have a positive change? Well that’s completely up to that person. They have to make some decisions and plans. See someone (Nancy) to get some insight into the situation.

After a while, when no plans have been made and no steps have been taken I tend to feel like this is how you want to feel. I know despair. I know the feeling of “I don’t know what else to do”. Well let me tell you the internet is full of ideas. Try something. Move your feet. Nothing is going to get better by you just venting about it. Faith without works is dead so DO SOMETHING!!!!!!! I stepped out on FAITH and I have yet to fall…..

My friends know that they are not able to come to me too many times without some sort of plan or action that has taken place. They know that I will snap and say something like “Well, you must not be too unhappy because you haven’t made any changes”. I’m not trying to hurt their feelings I’m attempting to shake them up. I do not cosign on unproductive ideas and sad thoughts. Let’s fix it! The word "can’t" is not allowed in conversations with me. You took the steps to get in the situation so take some steps to make a change! I’ll give you some ideas today but it’s up to you to use them.

Step 1. Write (YES WRITE) out exactly how you feel. Do not attempt to make it look nice and organized. Write it down just the way it’s running across your mind. When you get things off your chest, you make room in your mind for new ideas. Your mind is like a flushing toilet. Your feelings, thoughts, and worries just swirl around and around with no rhyme or reason. Well flush that stuff out so that there is a clear mind.

Step 2. Write down how you want things to be. How do you want your life to be? What will make you happy? Do not think about any other person just how YOU want it to be. You will not be able to create success if you do now know what you want.

Step 3. What do you think it will take to make that happen? This is when you need to brainstorm. Think about ways that YOU can change to get a different reaction from your situation. Think of positive ways that you can implement into your situation to give it a new look. Now let’s not pretend as if you are Polly or Paul Perfect because you are not. Start the change with you and it will change others. If your positivity doesn’t change your situation you will find that, it may be time to make some moves. First, try to fix what you have. Remember do not let someone’s actions dictate your reactions. YOU ARE IN CONTROL NOW!

Step 4. Make some goals! My personal goal is to be happy all day, every day. This is not easy but I work on it because this is how I want to feel. So post your goals where you can see them every day.  If it’s nothing but being on time every day for a week to show yourself that you can do it. You need to build up some happiness. Get in another frame of mind. When you take the time to change how you process situations you will be better equipped to handle them.

If you work on you first then you can work on the things around you. You are the strongest when you are at your weakest point. Right now, you are strong enough to hold on in your situation so, you will be strong enough to pull yourself up. Once you are up things will be easier to handle. Don’t be the hater in your life. You may not be able to change someone else but you can change you. Don’t talk about what is not happening, talk about the steps you are taking to make it happen.

You can do it!

Make today the first day of you new life!

AND remember fear will always rent the space it occupies, but FAITH will own the building and any room it steps in!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Just a little bit........

Luminous Morning……….

How strong is your Faith?

My Lord said that if you have Faith as small as a mustard seed you can tell a sycamore tree to uproot itself and go plant in the sea and it will obey you. So, with this being said what are you telling to move in your life? If you only need a little faith to make things happen, why do we have so much trouble? I will tell you why. Faith is not something you can see. It’s not tangible. You will never see a commercial that is selling Faith. Faith is like air. You know it’s there but you are not able to touch it. Faith is knowing even when there is nothing in that moment confirming its truth. You just need a little to alter your life. Think about the things you want in your life. Do you know that if you want those things you need faith to make it happen? When you KNOW something is going to happen it usually does. Why does it happen? You made it happen. You didn’t do anything to stop it. You knew it so it happened. I entered a contest one day and when I got back to the office, I kept telling everyone that I was going to win some tickets. I just knew that I was going to win. Now there was a little doubt because it was a drawing but I just kept speaking the words that I had already won. Do you know that when they sent the e-mail that afternoon I won the tickets…..LOL! It just reinforced that when you believe, things happen.

You are like a vessel and what you pour into it defines who you are and what will happen to you. When you pour Faith into your vessel, you begin to shine with positivity. After a while, you overflow with positive words and thoughts creating beautiful situations in your life. This kind of activity does not leave room for negative things. They do not fit and you end up squeezing that out of your life. Your good outweighs your bad. Doubt is overpowered by your positive beliefs. When your bad outweighs your good and more doubt is poured into your vessel it is like breeding bacteria. Your doubt grows into fear and then it chokes the life out of any dream or accomplishment you desire. With doubt, you tend to focus on things that inspire negativity. You focus on past failures. You see other people’s misery as a reason not to go forth with your dream. You allow negative words to reinforce your doubt and fear. We are human so there will always be a piece of doubt. What you have to do is to stand up to that doubt and tell it to move. Tell it that it doesn’t belong there and that you are going to show it that it’s a liar.

You just need a little Faith to tell that doubt to move. You don’t have to be 100% sure but you do have to take that first step. Set the goal. Then take the first step towards that goal. Know that you CAN do anything when you fill that vessel with Faith. KNOW that what you want you can have if you work for it. You will always have to work to keep doubt and fear out of your path. You have to stand up for your dreams and aspirations. Doubt and fear have no intentions of getting you to any goal. That is not how they work. There is nothing for you hanging out with doubt and fear. You are just postponing your success. When doubt comes and stands in your way, tell it to move you have things to do. Tell all of your obstacles to move you have somewhere to be and then keep moving.

Success is waiting on you.

Make today the day that you take a stand.

AND remember Faith is the bird that feels the light when the dawn is still dark.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Hey You! I want to talk to you!

Magnificent Morning!

 I hope that you had a wonderful holiday. Now it’s time to get started on this New Year. Are you ready?

 This morning I was reading an e-mail on my phone and text message popped up that said, “You can’t heal what you won’t confront” and I was like well, well, well…. What a message to begin the New Year. This year take the time to confront the things that you have been putting off for one reason or another. Do not let the fear of that situation keep you in a holding pattern. Address the situation and you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome. We all have something that we need to tackle. We have been putting off thinking that we will work on it later. You may even think that what you are putting off is not affecting the other parts of your life. This is not true. The things that bother you the most drip into other parts of your life. Unhappiness is like a disease that will spread to other parts. If you are not happy with your job you will take that feeling home. Then bills come and you feel like you can’t afford to do other things. You can’t go out with friends or family. You are not able to buy gifts. Then your attitude towards everything becomes a little funky. Let’s say that you have a problem with relationships. Your negative or unhappy attitude is projected onto other people. They do not desire to share their happy news for the fear of upsetting you. You feel as if all you have is work but you can’t appreciate that because you are focused on what you are missing. You don’t want to go out because you are in a state of unhappiness. In both of these situations, you do not even realize all of the negativity that comes out of your mouth. There are many more issues and if you have one, it will leak into the other parts of your life. This should be the year that you take control of your life. The thing about life is that you feel like you have time but I’m here to tell you that you don’t. The years are flying by and before you know it, you will at a point where it’s too late to make changes. That’s when the regret comes in. You have wasted enough time. You don’t have to tell anyone what you are going to do just work on becoming the better you. You are doing this for you and your future. Your happiness is at stake…….

 Take an hour to write down who you want to be and what you think it will take to get you there. Leave room for life changes. Then put this list up so that you can see it every day. You need to be reminding of the bigger picture. Life can get so busy wrapping you up in different emotions that you may forget what the ultimate goal is for you. This will help you stay focused. We all need a reminder about important things that you don’t want to forget. Well your happiness should be important. I know my happiness is uberly important to me. When I sit at my desk every morning the first thing I see is a sign that says “For We Walk By Faith and Not By Sight” and that reminds me that no matter what negative situation may be happening I KNOW that it will be ok. I know that some people really need that at their job. I keep it here because this is where I spend most of my time. When I am away from the job, I am reminded by the tattoos on my wrist. On each wrist is a Red Eye Tree Frog. For me they are a constant reminder that I am loved and to (F)ully (R)ely (O)n (G)od which is very important to me. These things help me keep my head in the game. They keep me from geekin’ out and allow me to take a step back to see what’s really going on. We are human and your mind will lead you to believe things that may not really be happening. You have to be focused. Focus on living the happiest life possible. Find things that work for you. Remind yourself that you are awesome. Trust yourself that you will always take care of you. Even if you make a not so great decision just have a come to Jesus meeting with yourself and say, “We are going to do better next time”. Learn from all situations good and bad and you will be able to make better decisions.

 I only desire for you to be happy. I want you to wake up every morning with a warm feeling of happiness. I know that you can do it so I need you be aware also!

 Take this year by the wheel and ride it until the wheels fall off!

 AND remember it’s your life don’t be the hater that keeps you from greatness!

 MAKE IT GREAT!

E

A wonderful beginning.​......

Happy New Year!!!!!!!

Have you made a plan for your happy this year? I know that people make resolutions about the things that want to change or do but is your happy included on this list? I consider happiness to be a very important factor in life. When you are internally happy the path that you have to travel is much easier because your happiness doesn’t lie in the goal. Your accomplishments just add to your happiness. Situations tend to be less stressful. Happiness should be like breathing. It’s going to happen anyway. If you are not internally happy then you should work on that first. I have found that because I’m happy if I do not accomplish my goal I know that it’s not the be all end all and I’m encouraged to try again. I'm my own cheerleader. My happiness gives me confidence to know that my situations don’t define me. How I handle the situation illustrates who I really am. When you take care of the inside it will display on the outside. Everything you do is like leaving a fingerprint of who you are. When there is low self-worth and doubt it is exhibited in everything you do. Now I know that I tell you not to worry about what other people think but in order to accomplish some goals you will need other people. When you want that job, role, or project you want to present a happy and confident person. That is the person that gets noticed. People want to see that person succeed and will give them the chance. So with the New Year take time to work on you so that you will be able to accomplish all of your goals. Take it one step at a time. Don't thing about the big picture. Think about that first step. When you have completed the first step then focus on the next step. Before you know it you will have accomplished more than you realized. Make 2012 the year of complete happiness. Be happy with what you currently have. Be happy with the people that care about you. Be happy with the you that you want to become. Dream big! Then make it happen.

I look forward to you finding and embracing your happy!

AND remember happiness is not result of getting something you don't have, but recognizing and appreciating what you already have.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E