Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Starting over again.....

Sometimes in the game of love you have to start again. Maybe you have reached a point in your relationship that you feel that you can’t get any higher and this may be it. This is your opportunity to take a step back and look at yourself. Take some time to write down some thoughts. What are you doing that is causing this friction in your relationship. What small changes can you make to help breakdown the ceiling that your relationship has come in contact with? Once you have figured that out you need to evaluate the things that you enjoy about your partner. What is it that made you fall in love or like in the first place? Take all of this information and have a knee to knee with your partner. Don’t go in with the “You do this” and “You don’t do that”. Shower them with the things that you adore about them. Then tell them some of the changes that you can make to help make this relationship work. Then give them the opportunity do the same for you. Starting over does not always mean that you need to end your relationship it can simply mean that you have to revisit the things that brought you together. If you find that you are not able to get your partner to work on the relationship and you have to start over you need to revisit who you were before the relationship and see what changed in you. I find that if you really love someone you will change for them. You want to see them happy so a little change here and there won’t hurt. After a while you find that you are not the same person and neither of you like the new you. You cannot compromise who you are. Your partner chose you because of who you are so if you change what makes you think that they will continue to like you? Compromise on budget, what night is best for “Date night”, and  vacations. Continue to work on being a better person but do not change all of you for someone else. Staring over is not always bad it just means that you get another chance to get it right!

E

Monday, September 26, 2011

In the Midst of it All.....

My favorite gospel song has to be Yolanda Adams “In the Midst of it all”. I want my blog to reflect exactly what this song is saying. No matter what is happening in my life I’m being kept in the midst of it all. When I feel lost, scared, hurt, sad, or nervous I just need to remind myself that although it seems like I’m going through it I’m still standing.
When times are going well for you this is the time that you need to be building up your Faith. Don’t go into your storm unprepared. You are a strong person and you need to be believe that. Know that you can endure it all. When you have this engrained in your heart and mind it’s easier to hang on in that storm. It’s already in you to be a solider for your life. Your parents have instilled it in you one way or another. Every positive or negative thing you have seen is a guide on what and what not to do. The enemy wins because you believe the things that they are telling you and not believing in what you already know. When you are at your lowest you are the only person that can build you up. Have Faith in you. You are in the storm and standing there getting wet so what are you going to do? Stand there? No! You find shelter. You find an umbrella. You find someone to help you. It’s all on YOU! You are already in the storm so step out on Faith…… You have never fallen before so why so hesitant this time? There will always be someone or something there to catch you. Your storm is your time to shine. This is your time to show that storm, haters, depression, and sadness that you are more than a conqueror!!!! You are stronger than even you have realized.
Build up your Faith. Storms happen everyday and the better prepared you are the easier it will be to get through ANYTHING!
Believe in you. You are the most important thing in your life. Take care of you and then you can help others.
You are in the midst of it all right now….and look, you are still standing.
Love you all,
E

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Hello awesome people!

Welcome to the “Happy in the Midst of it All” Blog.
I had a hard time with this transition because I was trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole and it just wouldn’t fit. So with that being said I have decided to retire the “Sista’ Girl Newsletter”. I think 5 years was a good run. I now want to focus more on my thoughts and feelings while still trying to encourage others to be and stay positive. I will still be adding in some newsletter type information. I hope that you all enjoy this blog as much as you have enjoyed the newsletter.
I want to thank all of people that have supported me in my new lifestyle. It feels so good to have people understand you and get inspired from your words. Thank you. I enjoy this happiness that I have achieved. Even on my not so great days I am still blessed. I want all of you to have what I have found and that’s an inner peace. More positive than negative things in life. An unshakable FAITH which causes you to not have to constantly worry about life and all that comes with it. You are so much stronger than you know and together we can get through it all.
If you subscribe to this blog every time that I post something it will send you a notification that the blog has been updated. I will still send the link in an e-mail for you the first couple of posts. This will not be a once a month newsletter. This will be a “When I have something to say” blog. Which for me could be all the time…..lol
Again, Thank you for everything.
Enjoy
E