Frienimies

Good afternoon,

I was thinking about my circle of friends and I smiled. I am so blessed to have these people in my life. I know that when my life is turned upside down I can count on them to have my back. When I say that they have my back, I do not mean they get me out of trouble (although they would) I mean emotionally they will be there for me. I am able to express myself and not feel like I’m standing butt naked in the middle of I-10. We all know that I have problems with feeling vulnerable. Anywhoo, it made me think about the saying, “Weddings, babies, and funerals will show you who your real friends are”. It is during these times that your true friends will put how they feel aside and help you through whatever you are going through. It makes you appreciate those people so much more. As for the people that were not able to put your feelings first the relationship usually is fractured. It’s then that you have to decide what role that person will play in your life. I use to be of the mindset that if you are not able to support me then we no longer needed to be friends. I was so cut throat. I have adjusted and even though I may not cut a person totally out you will no longer have “inner circle” privileges.  There are some people in my life right now that do not know that they are no longer in the inner circle. I think it’s because they are not able to see pass their own wants and needs to notice that I’m not there. I truly believe that some people are in our lives for a season or a reason. It may not be meant for them to stay in your life. I was once told that your trials/storms are not always meant for you. They are a lesson that you are supposed to learn so that you can help someone else later. I feel that same way about people. Someone may be put in your life to help you continue on your journey. I have been able to give support to people because I have already been through it and I’m still standing. There was a woman that had come in for an interview and while she was waiting, I was just talking to her. Somehow, I got on the subject of “Happy” and I couldn’t stop talking. I apologized for my mouth vomit and she told me that she needed to hear that. We are not friends but she was sent to my job to hear something that would help her on her journey. The point of all of this is that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to get upset when your so-called “Friends” upset you and do not have your back. It may just be that the reason they are in your life has already been fulfilled. You cannot change people but you can change how you deal with them. Once again, the season is changing so let go of all unnecessary baggage. If you have any amount of Faith then you know that you will always be taken care of…….so let go and enjoy your wonderful life.

AND remember each time you meet a person, it occurs at a time when it will have the greatest impact in our lives……

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Keeping my head on straight..​.....

Good morning,

Yesterday we had Sunday Salon, my aunt was talking about how life is forever changing, and we must adapt to the changes. Even when it does change, we must understand that it’s changing for a reason. There will be something that follows that will make your life better. In the moment, it may seem that nothing is going right but if you give it a minute, the sunshine will always return. I am so proud of myself because when I am happy about something and it seems to take a turn for the not so great instead of getting upset I breathe and think, “Let go….. If it’s for you then things will work out. If it’s not for me then there must be something else better.” There is a “big picture” look that we want for our lives but while waiting for that whole picture to come together we must enjoy the details that will create the bigger picture. I’m going to enjoy life day by day. When my thoughts have me trying to predict too many unknowns I have to stop and focus on today. Today I am happy. I will focus on my posted quotes or scriptures to keep me on track. I walk by FAITH and not by the unknowns of life.  It’s those unknowns that tend to drive us crazy. I mean sitting and running scenarios through your mind and then attempting to predict which one will actually happen will have you in a tizzy. We have all done it. Well I have to catch myself. I just work on letting it all go. I want to have empty hands so that I can catch all of the blessings coming my way. I have told myself that I will not stress over things that I am not able to control. That’s not my job. My job is to be happy and enjoy the life that has been given to me. I am supposed to take advantage of the opportunities that come my way. I am to learn from my mistakes and to keep reinforcing that if I keep getting up I will always be a winner. I can handle the change. Everything happens for a reason so I just need to chill and let it happen. I can and will do it!

I encourage you to free yourself. Enjoy the moment.

AND remember life is like a roller coaster….sometimes you have to let go and enjoy the ride.

MAKE IT GREAT

Thank you

Great morning,

This morning I am feeling so “Thankful”. I can remember when I use to stress about everything. I would stress about the future and all of the things that “Could” happen. I use to wear myself out. Now when those thoughts creep in (they never go away) I am able to shut them down. It’s just not important because nothing has happened. I remind myself that things are fine. I look to the word and calm myself down. In life, we will create a catastrophe without any evidence that trouble is heading that way. When assuming we almost never think in the positive. In order for that to happen, we must first see some evidence that it will work out. I am thankful that I’m learning how to assume in the positive. I know that life doesn’t even have to be as good as it is right now and because of this, I am “Thankful”. I could be stuck in past and clouding my future but I’m not. I could be bitter and sucking the happy out of other people. I could drive myself crazy holding on to the “coulda”, “woulda”, “shoulda”. For that, I am “Thankful”. I know that because I have let go, I’ve freed up space in my heart for more blessings. Oh and how the blessings have been poured in my life. You are not able to place a price on sanity. A clean heart and mind enable you to make better decisions. When I think that things are about to spiral out of control instead of jumping the gun I wait. I think of a plan and then I just wait it out. I have been working on my patience and I am here to tell you that in the end things have worked themselves out because I didn’t add any fuel to the fire.  A couple of years ago someone told me not to pray for patience. They told me to work on it on my own. When you ask GOD to help you with patience you never know what will be put in your life to “help” you with your patience. I am thankful for that advice.  I am thankful that I have been given another day to spread JOY. I wasn’t always this happy. I use to be miserable but I can appreciate my happy so much more because I’ve been unhappy. I am thankful. It’s easy to drop the negative when you have been living in the positive. I am thankful for new understandings. I know that I will always be a work in progress. Happy like marriage takes a lot of work but it’s worth it. I am thankful that storms do not last and GOD still blesses me during the storm. How can I not be “Thankful”? I have not always made the best decisions and I’m still standing and happy. I have been given the opportunity to live an awesome life and I am going to take full advantage. I am thankful for this gift of life. As long as I continue to wake up, I will be thankful. I will live in the positive and when that old negative attempts to creep in, I will pause and readjust. I will think about all that has been given to me and I will say, “Thank you”.

And remember happiness come when we stop complaining about our troubles and start saying thank you for the troubles we don’t have……

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Good morning!

Good morning,

You know……. I have said many times that when you send out positivity it will always come back to you. I’m not feeling my best today and therefore, my mood is not at 100%. I don’t know what it is about being sick that just puts you in a sour mood. I think it’s because I’m just uncomfortable. I’m happy just not peppy. So, I was sitting here meditating and my phone lit up. I looked and there was a text message from someone that woke up happy and just wanted to pass the vibe to me. It instantly brought a smile to my face. I had already received an earlier message that got my day started. I love when my friends and family share their happiness with me. That’s one of the reason that send random Good morning texts to the contacts in my phone. You never know how the simple sharing of Joy can enhance someone’s day. We are always talking about how we wish there were more positive things in the world but the truth is that we have to be the change we want to see. It will take some time but it can be done. There were some people that doubted my happiness in the beginning. I mean they threw negativity at me when I told them about the change I was making in my life. I just stayed on the path and now I’m at the point where I’m not able to be sad….lol. People are not having it….and I’m cool with that. If life and death lie in the power of the tongue then we have to use that power to create the happy we want in our lives. “Haters” only bother you because they know that they can get under your skin. Once you are walking in positivity they will fall off because they can’t handle the happy. They are not ready to give the negative up so they will move on. You don’t even have to say anything to them. Negative words will just fuel the problem and like granny use to say, “Feed a cold, Starve a fever”.  Pump positivity in and get rid of the negative. The problem will go away. What you put out is what you will get back. I’m so thankful that I understand this because I can appreciate when someone takes the time to send me a good morning message. Thank you! I wish you nothing but the best today and in life!

AND remember happiness begins with you!

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Verbal expectations.........

Good afternoon,

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.” Proverbs 15:1

It’s all about thinking before you speak. There have been times that I have popped off at the mouth before thinking it through. I have had to endure the consequences that come with that. I have been really working on that. I want to use my words to build and not to destroy. That is why I am so thankful that GOD works on us a piece at a time. HE never gives us more than we can handle. It may seem like it’s a lot but that ‘s due to the fact that we have doubt…GOD doesn’t. There will be people that are not allowing change to take place in their lives and will say things that will hurt you. You have a choice to ignore them or let them have control over your feelings. I know most of us will be quick to tell someone, “You can’t tell me what to do” but allow them to have control over their feelings…… We have to learn to ignore the negative. I’m sure there is someone in our lives that encourages or speak positive words to us. We should focus more on those blessings. People that destroy with their mouths are just lost souls that haven’t figured out how to find their own happy. They are not able to heal with their words because they are still looking for their own healing. So, until they have figured out we should NEVER meditate on their words. Take every kind word spoken to you as a form of glue. Let positive words heal and restore you to where you need to be. If you believe that things will get better let the positive spark more life into those thoughts until you are full. We can get through anything and with positive reinforcement; it makes the goal more tangible. If we choose the songs we listen to then we can choose the people we listen to in our lives. Do not invest into people that are lost. You will find that you end up lost also. You already know what to do. I just think that sometimes we wait for someone to co-sign on what we are thinking. What we have to do is instead of waiting speak over our own lives. The more positive you send out the more you get back. It’s like a magnet. When negativity comes your way, block it like Wonder Woman does with her bracelets and then smile knowing that you are stronger than hater.

Let’s focus on the positive and continue to build greatness!!!!!!!

AND remember words hurt when you believe them……

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

Lie to me.............

Good afternoon,

This morning had me thinking about how no matter how positive I am I still have rough days. Today is not rough but I have so much on my mind that my whole body is reacting to it. I have so many thoughts and mini worries that I’m having a hard time concentrating. I was speaking with a co-worker yesterday and she was telling me how the tiny ecosystem she had at her desk helps her not focus on all of her worries. I thought that’s just like the notes taped to my desk. They are there to distract me from the poo poo platter of scattered thoughts and they remind me that everything is going to be ok. They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that is the truth. Every experience good or bad is a lesson learned to make you stronger. In the meantime, during the rough times we must find a way to deal with the moment. For a long time I lied to myself. I told myself that I was happy and everything was already ok. Soon I actually began to believe it and my actions soon followed. It’s all about how you look at your life. How do you want your life to be? Then you have to keep that in mind during your everyday life.

It’s so funny that I was writing about this and someone just sent me this message a few minutes ago……

Perception is reality!

Regardless of what you heard…. What you think is what your life is...change your perception change your reality!

So, when you start telling yourself everything will work out you start to manifest those positive thoughts in your life. Pain comes but the length of time that you hurt is up to you. You have to fight through it and KNOW that soon the sunshine will return.

So get you an ecosystem, post notes, read your bible, sing, workout, or do whatever makes you keep your mind on the positive track.

AND remember positive encouragement helps you fight through the bad days to get to the best days of your life.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

You did it this morning!

Good morning,

So yesterday, I spoke about the cycle of life. This morning I was thinking about Joseph in the bible and his life cycle. I mean he was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, lied on by a woman, and jailed. By holding on to his Faith, his suffering died and he was resurrected into greatness. We know that he was not happy with his conditions. We know that every time it seemed like he was getting ahead he stumbled again. We know that he struggled with his life. The thing I like about him is that even though he was in the midst of his storms he never lost his Faith. I keep this story close to my heart as verification that if I keep moving everything will be fine. We can get through anything if we believe we can. It may not be easy but there will come a time when it will get better. I remember a woman told me that after my mom passed. She told me, “You will never really get over it but it will get better with time”. She was right. I still have “Karen moments” but it’s not nearly as bad as it was. When I say, “You never get over it” I mean that you never forget. Everything that we go through we don’t forget but we do move past it. We just have to hold on. We must know that a better day is coming. There will be death to our suffering and we must be ready for it. You will not be able to enjoy your life if you are holding on to your suffering. When it’s over let go. Have empty hands to receive your blessings. That suffering was preparation for your blessings. In order for me to get to happy, I had to go through some not so great things but because of it, several things have happened. I am happy and I can share it with you. My happiness has also allowed me to encourage others in some of the same things I went through. How about that! I am more than happy to be the ambassador of happiness because I want everyone to feel like I do. Even on my bad days I can still find some happy. I know that if I keep holding on I can get back to where I want to be. If my example of life is not enough then let Joseph be your example…. I’m sure you can’t beat his story….lol

AND remember sometimes the greatest act of Faith is to just get up and face another day.

MAKE IT GREAT

E