Starting over again.....

Sometimes in the game of love you have to start again. Maybe you have reached a point in your relationship that you feel that you can’t get any higher and this may be it. This is your opportunity to take a step back and look at yourself. Take some time to write down some thoughts. What are you doing that is causing this friction in your relationship. What small changes can you make to help breakdown the ceiling that your relationship has come in contact with? Once you have figured that out you need to evaluate the things that you enjoy about your partner. What is it that made you fall in love or like in the first place? Take all of this information and have a knee to knee with your partner. Don’t go in with the “You do this” and “You don’t do that”. Shower them with the things that you adore about them. Then tell them some of the changes that you can make to help make this relationship work. Then give them the opportunity do the same for you. Starting over does not always mean that you need to end your relationship it can simply mean that you have to revisit the things that brought you together. If you find that you are not able to get your partner to work on the relationship and you have to start over you need to revisit who you were before the relationship and see what changed in you. I find that if you really love someone you will change for them. You want to see them happy so a little change here and there won’t hurt. After a while you find that you are not the same person and neither of you like the new you. You cannot compromise who you are. Your partner chose you because of who you are so if you change what makes you think that they will continue to like you? Compromise on budget, what night is best for “Date night”, and  vacations. Continue to work on being a better person but do not change all of you for someone else. Staring over is not always bad it just means that you get another chance to get it right!

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