They ain't about that life!

Good morning,

Don’t make someone a priority when they only make you an option. I know that it may be hard to let go of someone that you like but sometimes it has to happen……. Of course I was doing some reading and I found this article…..

Even though this is about men it can go for women also. Never want to let my men hanging….. J

If He Blows Hot and Cold

If you are in love with a man that blows hot and cold, girl I feel for you. We have all been there. You have this chemistry with a man, it feels returned. Some days are just amazing. Others you don't even know if he will call or not. Worse, you wonder if you don't call him, would you even hear from him or not? It's a emotional roller coaster that is for sure.

Why do men blow hot and cold? Is he moody? Is it that he loves you but he just hasn't realized it yet. This is what I see a lot. Women staying with this up and down man hoping he will realize that one day he loves her and begins to stop the nonsense back and forth stuff. Many women even attempt to talk to their man about it. Oh this is only going to make it worse, don't talk about it. Men respond to distance, not words.

If you find yourself saying "but it was so great last time we were together, how can he just shut me out like that" you have one of those men that go from cold to hot. If you find yourself saying "but I love him", you have even bigger troubles. A man that changes temperatures is not a man in love. A man in love would not dream of putting you through that emotional push pull. If he is falling in love, you won't be left wondering why he disappeared.

He could be a commitment phobic, he could be emotionally unavailable, but the fact remains, he is what he is, not present in your life like you wished he would be. It's the hot times that keep you holding on. You think if he could just be like this all the time. If he could just see how much I love him, if this, if that.

The fact of the matter is being in love with a man like this is emotionally exhausting. You hold onto how it was in the beginning and ignore how it is now. Fairy dust will not just sprinkle from the sky and transform the hot and cold man into a great partner. Nothing will transform these men into great partners. You are in love with his potential and focused on what could or should be and not what is.

If he was going to become a great partner, he would have already done so. Men don't just wake up one day more interested in you or all of a sudden in love. Men to fall in love have to think about you. A hot and cold man doesn't spend a lot of time thinking about you. Here is a hard truth about these men. His attraction for you is not that strong.

More times than not, men that blow hot and cold may not see you as his dream girl. A man would never blow hot and cold to his dream girl. He might lose her. If he blows hot and cold, you could be just an option for now until someone else comes along. A man who is a good partner would not do this to a woman he truly cares about. He would not lead her on and then disappear for days. He wouldn't call some days and go silent for others.

Some hot and cold men stay around for a long time before they disappear. I have seen men blow hot and cold for one woman and turn around and blow hot all the time for another woman. Are you the fall girl here or his dream girl?

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And remember sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

*MESSAGE*

Good afternoon,

Men/women should be a luxury not a necessity. A luxury is like wine....you don't have to have it but it's good when you do..... a necessity is like toilet paper and if your standards are low and you don't have any Charmin you will use newspaper......

Make yourself the necessity in your life.  Live life to the fullest and things will fall into place. The more we focus on one particular thing the more blessings we miss out on.

Today do something nice for you!

AND remember you can change yesterday but you can make today great!

MAKE IT GREAT

E

"Feelings"

Good morning

For me there is nothing like some face time! My love language is clearly “Quality Time” because after spending time with people that I care about I feel so warm and fuzzy on the inside.  It’s not that we did anything special or there was an event. We are just in the presence of one another talking. Just writing about spending time with loved ones brings a smile to my face. I honestly feel like the holidays wouldn’t be great if there was no one to spend it with. I spend a lot of time by myself and I love it but there is nothing like companionship and family. It recharges me and I love it. I am very blessed to have the people that love me in my life. I can only hope that you have the same. Let’s not waste a moment of love that people have for us. I hope that you have a wonderful holiday!

Today take some time to reach out to someone and let them know how you feel. J

AND remember love is a journey…..enjoy the ride!

MAKE IT GREAT

E

Why wait?

Good morning!

This morning someone said, “Well I’m not going to do it right now because of blah, blah, blah”…. I obviously stopped listening because I feel like life should never be put on hold for something that may not happen in the near future. Live life to the fullest and when things change (because they always do) then we just need to change with it. As we know, I tend to have a hard time with change in certain areas of my life but I have found that when I let go things just fall into place. This also tells me that holding on to things will put a hold on future blessings. It’s like keeping yourself prisoner.  We will talk about all of the great things we want but will not take off the shackles of “doubt”, “fear,” and “negativity”. Let go and take advantage of all of the great things in life. Projecting happy will only bring more happy.

 I hope that you have an awesome holiday! Open up and allow in all the happy your heart can hold!

AND remember letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care…. You are just making room for better!

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

"King Kong ain't got nothing on me!

Super morning,

I was talking to a friend who was feeling sad and they were telling me how much they admired the strength that I have. To which I promptly said, “I was not always like this”. What I have learned is that I’m stronger now because of those weak times. We have to go through things to make us wiser in the future. Now, some people do not view their not so great days as a lesson to be learned. They see it as their way of life. That is the way they feel will always be so they might as well be sad and complain about it. We must encourage ourselves and believe that when something not so great happens it’s just a moment and not a lifestyle. The strength is inside of us. Most of us just don’t recognize it. I find myself saying look at all we have already been through in life thus far. If we didn’t have inner strength, we wouldn’t have made it. How many times do we have to be shown that we can get through anything? Stop letting our lying eyes show us things that are not really happening. Perception is everything. If we perceive things as not so great then our actions will follow that negative curve. We have to get our minds on the right track. Our faith will drive our perception and that in turn will drive our actions. “For We Walk by Faith and Not by Sight” is not just a quote it should be the standard of living. No one that is successful has ever been perfect. They have stumbled. They have made some mistakes but there is something inside of them that tells them to continue on their journey. I guess I will call them “Gangsta Believers”. They don’t care what anyone says they are going to believe that it will happen and it does. Not everyone will understand this thought process but they don’t have to believe because this is your life not theirs. My happy definitely outweighs my not so great days. When I began this journey, people were giving me the serious side eye but I didn’t care. “Who can be this happy all the time?” I didn’t know but I wanted to be happy and after all, that I had been through I was like there is no reason that I can’t be. Here I am almost 4 years later still happy. The people that didn’t believe now believe. They don’t have a choice. My record of accomplishment shows that I’m happy a majority of the time. Even my bad days don’t last that long. I don’t have much room for that anymore. Any fall that may happen will only make me stronger the next time. We have to be the change that we want in our lives.

Look back on your past to view the lessons that you have learned and smile knowing that you are so much stronger now!

AND remember being in tune with your weaknesses puts you in greater tune with your strengths.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

E

Relax, Relate, Release.......

Good morning,

I really attempt to live a stress-free life. Getting upset over things that I cannot change will drive me batty. I have to remind myself of all of the things I have been through and how much strength it took to get me through those things. I am so much stronger than I know. Times when I feel so weak, something builds up in me and I have learned not to stop that feeling. That is when my strength shows up and shows out! We are not built to dwell in our missteps. We are created to be and do amazing things. Let’s not get upset over things that we don’t have control over. It’s like when driving on the highway and something appears in the middle of the freeway. We are not able to control what happens on that freeway BUT we can control how we will react to the situation. An instant plan to go around the object formulates in the mind. No one had to give instructions it’s just a natural reaction to protect ones’ self. So, there is no reason to wig out on the little things…. Your natural reaction will always protect you. Concentrate on finding and maintaining the happy in life. We can do it!

Smile today even if you don’t have a reason to….. it’s the first step to happiness.

AND remember strength isn’t about how much you can handle before you break, it’s about how much you can handle AFTER you break……..

MAKE IT GREAT!

E

It's ok to be happy.

Awe-inspiring Morning to you!

I am so happy this morning I can just scream! It is during times like this I do most breathing. I like to deeply inhale and exhale because it feels so refreshing. Nothing has happened to cause this feeling other than being grateful for just being here. Be happy!

Some people believe that the happier you are the harder you fall. We have to stop this type of thinking. Think positive and positive things will happen. I believe the more unhappy you are the further you will fall into negativity. My Faith contract doesn’t allow for pity parties or for me to be sad for too long. I have too much to do and GOD is waiting on me to do my part so that HE can do his. The plan is for a happy life and that is what I’m going to have. My good outweighs my bad so I’m counting it all JOY! What we must realize is that there is a plan for us. The plan never changes we do. We change our minds. We change how we feel. It’s not until we get refocused that things begin to happen in our lives. That’s why if I get frustrated I pull back. I smile and say nothing else. I KNOW what I want and I KNOW that it will happen when it’s supposed to happen. So, I am able to focus on my happy. Things will adjust and people will come and go. I’m not going to be upset because I’m not the one missing out on greatness and when one door closes, another one always opens….Let us all take comfort in knowing that we are created for greatness. Stay the course and enjoy the ride!

I hope today we all understand that life is not a sprint it’s marathon…. Enjoy every minute!

AND remember expect the best in life, plan for the worse, and prepare to be surprised by your greatness!

MAKE IT GREAT

E